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  • Aatman Shah avatar

    Aatman Shah

    December 2, 2016

    tame your mammoth.

  • Nishan Pantha avatar

    Nishan Pantha

    September 8, 2018

    One of the posts from WBH I tend to engulf with repetition...

  • Chris Lewicki avatar

    Chris Lewicki

    December 29, 2016

    This should be required reading for teenagers and clics! After you're done reading, do something about it.

  • Prabhakar Dwivedi avatar

    Prabhakar Dwivedi

    February 8, 2017

    Tim Urban _/\_

  • Rakesh Gupta avatar

    Rakesh Gupta

    April 23, 2016

    From the archives: one of last year's most popular posts and a particularly good one to read before the upcoming new post.

  • Rakesh Gupta avatar

    Rakesh Gupta

    July 23, 2017

    From the archives: one of last year's most popular posts and a particularly good one to read before the upcoming new post.

  • sadanand wachche avatar

    sadanand wachche

    February 8, 2016

    Best breakup advice :P

  • Ricardo Magalhães avatar

    Ricardo Magalhães

    December 30, 2016

    This is the perfect way to explain and make sense of our bad alter-egos and why they control us when we don't want them to. Epic read, great analogies too.

  • Dheepak Govindaraj avatar

    Dheepak Govindaraj

    March 7, 2016

    Tim's writing is too good

  • M Cybulsky avatar

    M Cybulsky

    November 30, 2015

    Don't worry about what other people think

  • Ricardo Briceño avatar

    Ricardo Briceño

    January 9, 2016

    I want to frame this article.

  • Mohit Rauniyar avatar

    Mohit Rauniyar

    September 22, 2018

    Such a good read this morning!

  • Richard Tubb avatar

    Richard Tubb

    November 26, 2018

    Fantastic read on something that we all struggle with - worrying about what others think of us.

  • Dave Sonders avatar

    Dave Sonders

    April 17, 2017

    Long but very worth it. I'd love to know just how much of the mammoth I've tamed and where else it's hiding out in my thoughts and motivations.

  • Peter Bückle avatar

    Peter Bückle

    February 21, 2016

    We share a collective insanity that pervades human cultures throughout the world:

    An irrational and unproductive obsession with what other people think of us.

  • Mila Votradovec avatar

    Mila Votradovec

    May 3, 2018

    Does your mammoth wanna read this? ;-)

  • Barry van Someren avatar

    Barry van Someren

    December 29, 2016

    Care less in the next year..

  • fatimah az zahra avatar

    fatimah az zahra

    January 10, 2017

    Social expectation, Eh?

    But in today’s world, no matter who you are, a bunch of people will like you and a bunch of other people won’t. Being approved of by one type of person means turning another off. So obsessing over fitting in with any one group is illogical, especially if that group isn’t really who you are.

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    J K

    May 28, 2017

    👌🏼🙈

  • Samy Amirou avatar

    Samy Amirou

    April 19, 2018

    When you’re seven, there aren’t really any actionable steps you can take when you’re in love with someone. You’re not even sure what you want from the situation. There’s just this amorphous yearning that’s a part of your life, and that’s that.

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    Samy Amirou

    April 19, 2018

    This horrifying experience taught me a critical life lesson—it can be mortally dangerous to be yourself, and you should exercise extreme social caution at all times.

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    Samy Amirou

    April 19, 2018

    Above all, mammoths want to fit in—that’s what tribespeople had always needed to do so that’s how they’re programmed. Mammoths look around at society to figure out what they’re supposed to do, and when it becomes clear, they jump right in

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    Samy Amirou

    April 20, 2018

    Being the material a judgy person uses to feel good about themselves is a fairly infuriating thought—but it has no actual consequences and it’s clearly all much more about the judgy person and their mammoth problem than it is about you.

  • Calvin Nguyen avatar

    Calvin Nguyen

    September 28, 2018

    When you don’t know who you are, the only decision-making mechanism you’re left with is the crude and outdated needs and emotions of your mammoth. When it comes to the most personal questions, instead of digging deep into the foggy center of what you really believe in to find clarity, you’ll look to others for the answers. Who you are becomes some blend of the strongest opinions around you.

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    Bo Lu

    August 10, 2016

    you’re happy and they still don’t come around, here’s what’s happening: their strong feelings about who you should be or what you should do are their mammoth talking, and their main motivation is worrying about how it’ll “look” to other people who know them. They’re allowing their mammoth to override their love for you, and they should be adamantly ignored.

  • Piyush B avatar

    Piyush B

    October 12, 2016

    An alternative take on social pressure how it is less relevant today and being an authentic person. Entertaining as always

  • Nicola Principe avatar

    Nicola Principe

    May 5, 2017

    an epic read... really really worthed the time!

  • Natalie . avatar

    Natalie .

    November 20, 2017

    that this lesson isn’t just limited to me and my debacle of a childhood—it’s a defining paranoia of the human species. We share a collective insanity that pervades human cultures throughout the world:

    An irrational and unproductive obsession with what other people think of us.

  • Luca Fauciglietti avatar

    Luca Fauciglietti

    March 28, 2016

    It's easy to say be yourself. Much harder to explain why we are so fixated on how others see us. Great article, lovely read.

    People gravitate toward AVs, not mammoths. The only time a mammoth-crazed person is appealing on a first date is when they’re on the date with another mammoth-crazed person. People with a strong AV see through mammoth-controlled people and aren’t attracted to them.

  • Cameron Kleiman avatar

    Cameron Kleiman

    April 15, 2016

    I can relate to a lot of this stuff. Makes you think twice.

  • Carly Helliesen avatar

    Carly Helliesen

    May 12, 2016

    Amazing, well-written, entertaining, & insightful article! I need to read and reread this every day! The analogy is THE best & most-convincing I've ever seen to explain why to stop caring about what others think! This is definitely among my top-favorite articles, well worth recommending!

  • Daniel Kiedrowski avatar

    Daniel Kiedrowski

    January 26, 2017

    #healthymind

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    G F

    June 28, 2018

    Because of this, humans evolved an over-the-top obsession with what others thought of them—a craving for social approval and admiration, and a paralyzing fear of being disliked. Let’s call that obsession a human’s Social Survival Mammoth.

  • Jared Foster avatar

    Jared Foster

    November 4, 2018

    Lesenswert!

  • Jim  Sharpington avatar

    Jim Sharpington

    February 3, 2016

    Fascinating article - those Mammoths! #tameyourmammoth

  • Anton A avatar

    Anton A

    February 9, 2016

    3) Decide where the mammoth needs to be ousted

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    Anton A

    February 9, 2016

    pedestal that their mammoth can chomp away on.

  • Anton A avatar

    Anton A

    February 9, 2016

    the obsessive lumbering mammoth isn’t even good at his job

  • Bernhard Lukas avatar

    Bernhard Lukas

    April 23, 2017

    Social mammoths are not extinct yet.

  • Valentin Sokol avatar

    Valentin Sokol

    July 17, 2017

    The most obvious way to find the mammoth is to figure out where your fear is—where are you most susceptible to shame or embarrassment?

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    Kristina undefined

    October 23, 2018

    Losing touch with your AV also makes you fragile, because when your identity is built on the approval of others, being criticized or rejected by others really hurts

  • Brian avatar

    Brian

    March 23, 2019

    So funny at times, so real at times.

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    Brian

    March 23, 2019

    And the cartoons are hilarious

  • Jack DiGiovanna avatar

    Jack DiGiovanna

    January 2, 2017

    Almost nothing you’re socially scared of is actually scary.

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