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    david mcqueen

    April 1, 2018

    6. How Not to Care When People Don't Like You #SundayReads

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    Amirreza H.A.

    March 31, 2018

    Before you freak out, keep in mind that it’s not just normal to be occasionally disliked, but in fact, it’s healthy. Rejection is a way to suss out who’s compatible with whom, and just as getting romantically dumped by someone leaves you open to finding a better suited partner, getting axed from a social group gives you space to find folks that are a little more your speed. Plus, it’s empowering not to fear being disliked—not that you should run around violating social norms, but when you’re not wasting energy molding your personality to someone else’s to be accepted, you’re more likely to find people who genuinely like you for you, and those relationships are far less exhausting to keep up.

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    Victor

    February 9, 2019

    “certain persons simply will not like you not matter what you do,” and no matter how likable you think you are, you’re not going to win over every person you meet.

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    N H

    April 11, 2018

    Chloe Brotheridge, a hypnotherapist and anxiety expert, tells us. “You have your own unique personality which means some people will love and adore you, while others may not.”

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    Leszek Bartkowski

    February 7, 2019

    Sometimes, the people who dislike you don’t think certain facets of your personality jibe with theirs; sometimes, you just don’t offer them enough social capital to be worth their time. “Because we’re a very social species with a pretty intense dominance hierarchy, especially when it comes to work, and sometimes in social situations, people make specific strategic alliances and switch alliances as it suits them to meet their needs as they define them,” Verdolin says. “So people will try to achieve status, and a lot of time, whether they like you or don’t like you may have nothing to do with who you are.”

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    Ellen Pi

    April 16, 2018

    Rejection is a way to suss out who’s compatible with whom

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    Ellen Pi

    April 16, 2018

    And keep in mind that the best way to make genuine friendships is to be genuine yourself. “If you just walk around wanting to be liked, it’s very stressful, and people will read that as inauthentic,” Grover says.

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