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Nikki Will

Shared January 3, 2016

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Nikki Will

Shared January 3, 2016

What are you willing to struggle for?

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Callie Schweitzer

Shared January 5, 2016

"Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings."

Alex Cavoulacos

Shared March 15, 2017

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Jonathan Snook

Shared January 8, 2016

Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs.

luca conti

Shared November 12, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

Jan Tißler

Shared January 3, 2016

Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Omar Shahine

Shared January 3, 2016

Fantastic article on success and struggle

Ben Springwater

Shared February 5, 2016

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Aatman Shah

Shared October 6, 2016

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Dave Surgan

Shared January 4, 2016

"Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all."

Taylor McKnight

Shared January 20, 2017

what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Tim Dobson

Shared January 13, 2016

this is a really interesting article!

Adrien Joly

Shared February 16, 2016

" our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend. "

Allan Beaufour

Shared January 15, 2016

Good observations

“How do you choose to suffer?”

Swati Garg

Shared January 5, 2016

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. Great Read :)

Gero Nagel

Shared January 4, 2016

The question is not "what do you want?", the question is "what pain do you want?"

Mauricio Diaz Piraquive

Shared January 11, 2016

Make questions using another way..

Melissa Vaught

Shared January 6, 2016

Not fond of some tone, but important point re: need to ask not just what you want but what struggles you're willing to endure.

Scott Allen

Shared March 27, 2017

this is the most perspective shifting thing I read in a very long time.

Scott Allen

Shared March 27, 2017

This is the most perspective shifting thing I've read in a very long time.

Sharat Satyanarayana

Shared September 24, 2016

This. 'Choose your struggles wisely'
#lifelesson

Arthur de Castro Araujo

Shared January 5, 2016

Awesome article

What are you willing to struggle for?

Hanan Ali

Shared June 18, 2017

what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?

what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?

Alice Sykes

Shared January 6, 2017

Asher Blumberg

Shared February 7, 2016

Our struggles determine our successes!

Vincent Huberta

Shared January 3, 2016

Great insight. Everyone wants similar things generally, but has different things that they are willing to struggle for. What pain do you choose to suffer? Want the victory? Choose your struggle wisely.

Paolo Roganti

Shared January 6, 2016

choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Shem Magnezi

Shared February 15, 2016

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences.

Shem Magnezi

Shared February 7, 2017

" I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way."

Dan Bender

Shared February 6, 2016

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

There’s a lot of crappy advice out there that says, “You’ve just got to want it enough!”

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren’t aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want “enough.”

Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs.

Prateek

Shared January 1, 2016

I was in love with the result—the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing—but I wasn’t in love with the process.

Elyse Viotto

Shared January 11, 2016

I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Salonee Sanghvi

Shared August 21, 2017

“What pain do you want to sustain?"

Taqwa Ghazal

Shared September 9, 2017

shockingly true

Jasen Farmer

Shared December 11, 2016

@IAmMarkManson w/bottom line of why Americans are unhappy; #happiness takes hard work, pain, & struggle; everything #marketers pretend can be bought away

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Caroline McCarthy

Shared February 4, 2016

what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Giulia Guzzardi

Shared June 8, 2017

happiness requires struggle

Artem Parshentsev

Shared January 9, 2016

«What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experience».

Matthew Jensen

Shared May 5, 2016

What do you want?

Rogério Pereira

Shared January 5, 2017

You can’t win if you don’t play.

Patrick Keenan

Shared January 7, 2017

This is such a simple way of putting it. Know your struggle.

I was in love with the result—the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing—but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it.

Petr Zvonicek

Shared January 9, 2016

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Laszlo Vad

Shared January 25, 2017

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Brandon Evans

Shared May 22, 2016

What are you willing to struggle for?

Dipanshu Gupta

Shared February 21, 2016

This article will change your life.

Ranjani Natarajan

Shared February 3, 2016

What pain are you truly willing to endure in life?

Josh Long

Shared April 30, 2016

Great perspective on fulfillment. I'd change "struggle" to "effort" since I don't believe it has to be hard.

Sandeep Chowdary

Shared July 26, 2016

What are you willing to struggle for?

Erdogan Cesmeli

Shared December 18, 2016

What pain can you endure for your ultimate happiness? That is the question to decide and proceed. Yours?

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Jorge Correia

Shared March 3, 2017

Perguntas

Shahryar Nobahar

Shared July 2, 2017

دردسرها و رنج‌هایی که برای خودت انتخاب می‌کنی، زندگی و موفقیت‌هات رو شکل میده #خواندنی

Agustiadi Lee

Shared January 18, 2016

Awesome piece of advice of understanding thyself

A Reader

Shared January 20, 2016

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

A Reader

Shared January 21, 2016

Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship—but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. And so they settle. They settle and wonder “What if?” for years and years and until the question morphs from “What if?” into “Was that it?” And when the lawyers go home and the alimony check is in the mail they say, “What was that for?” if not for their lowered standards and expectations 20 years prior, then what for?

Honza Felt

Shared December 25, 2016

Now I know what Žižek meant by claiming that happiness is an unethical category. Perspective is everything.

Sandeep Chowdary

Shared January 3, 2017

what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?

Stef Ólafsdóttir

Shared January 3, 2016

Interesting approach on how to choose your focus. Instead of "What do I want?", ask "What pain am I willing to sustain?"
I'm excited to ponder this question, to help see what I actually like doing.

Pantelis K.

Shared May 1, 2016

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting.

Pantelis K.

Shared May 1, 2016

I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.

Pantelis K.

Shared May 1, 2016

I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Agnes Putri Wahyuningtyas

Shared December 29, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Agnes Putri Wahyuningtyas

Shared December 29, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. So, what pain do you want in your life?

Ian Christian Cadeliña

Shared January 11, 2016

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

Laurent le Beau-Martin

Shared January 18, 2016

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters.

Mason Phillips

Shared January 6, 2016

Worthwhile article.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Johannes Ecker

Shared January 1, 2017

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Igor Gembitsky

Shared January 5, 2016

This made me rethink my life goals.

Angel Ponce

Shared January 14, 2016

Great read on what ir really means to want something.

Elena Constantinou

Shared January 17, 2016

An interesting article to read , really inspiring! #No pain No gain!

Prabakar Baskar

Shared February 20, 2016

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

jignesh darji

Shared October 16, 2016

Are you willing and happy to experience the journey? Or do you only want the end result?

Olaniyan Ayomide

Shared January 10, 2017

drudgery

Thorsten Claus

Shared March 23, 2017

I was in love with the result—the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing—but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it.

Thorsten Claus

Shared March 23, 2017

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape.

Sara Shafie

Shared April 24, 2017

"Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. "

Martijn De Haan

Shared January 4, 2016

Read this.

Furkan Üzümcü

Shared January 5, 2016

#qz #selfrealization

Mark Stansbury

Shared February 12, 2016

Manson's stuff is consistently great. Worth your time.

Siddharth Sharma

Shared May 14, 2016

👌👌👌

Karina Mitropoulou

Shared June 1, 2016

What are you willing to struggle for?

Aimee Louise Sison

Shared September 20, 2016

Makes you think.

Addie K. Martin

Shared December 1, 2016

Mind = blown

Daniela Amadeu

Shared January 12, 2017

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything.

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Z. Chris Charimari

Shared February 9, 2017

Very insightful. Wow

Betty Ho

Shared January 9, 2016

Great if sobering read to start off the new year. #resolutions2016!

Kashish Sharma

Shared July 23, 2016

good read

Peiman Rafiezadeh

Shared January 22, 2017

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Dave Sonders

Shared February 1, 2017

Great advice: focus more on the pain you're willing to accept, not the end state of the struggle.

entrepreneur

Will Brown

Shared January 5, 2016

what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Vinay Sarda (VINSOMES)

Shared January 13, 2016

Something that we know, but we keep on forgetting. Must read.

Vinay Sarda (VINSOMES)

Shared January 21, 2016

Struggles Define You!

SENTHILKUMAR M

Shared February 2, 2016

our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely 😜😜😜

Rachel Nocom

Shared April 18, 2016

Instead of "What do I want?", ask yourself, "What am I willing to struggle for?"

Mina S. Aziz

Shared November 22, 2016

What are you willing to struggle for?

Jason Stempler

Shared January 20, 2017

What pain are you willing to endure? I know something, someone, in my life right now, that I'd go through much pain for.

Ambrose Ochieno

Shared February 2, 2017

. You can’t win if you don’t play.

Abhi Kalyan

Shared February 10, 2017

sounds idealistic to the less discerning

Nicolas Walker

Shared February 19, 2017

Not the only thing but definitely a fresh take on thinking about success

Benoît Eclache

Shared January 6, 2016

Interesting article to start the year. I think many people can relate me included.

Fernando Freire

Shared January 11, 2016

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Harriet

Shared January 13, 2016

Worth the read. It has a different take on life and in finding the purpose of it.

Hugo Prione

Shared January 31, 2016

What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Muhammad Aditya

Shared February 9, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Victor

Shared January 1, 2017

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

Isaias Matewos

Shared January 12, 2017

our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Nkosana Malumba

Shared February 9, 2017

What pain do you want to sustain?

Nkosana Malumba

Shared February 10, 2017

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything.

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence—but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.

Yemi Jamgbadi

Shared March 20, 2017

simply amazing.

Godiva Golding

Shared July 31, 2017

Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Godiva Golding

Shared July 31, 2017

But you don’t end up attracting someone amazing without appreciating the emotional turbulence that comes with weathering rejections, building the sexual tension that never gets released, and staring blankly at a phone that never rings. It’s part of the game of love. You can’t win if you don’t play.

Godiva Golding

Shared July 31, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

Viet Nguyen

Shared January 9, 2016

So true.

paulo basto

Shared January 28, 2016

Fight wisely my friend! That's what I would say.
Not 100% down to it, but Good read nevertheless.

Finn Antrobus

Shared February 13, 2016

A new perspective on inspiration. Awesome article.

Peter Bückle

Shared February 18, 2016

Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Peter Park

Shared March 9, 2016

what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?

Peter Park

Shared March 9, 2016

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Peter Park

Shared March 9, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Alia Alsagoff

Shared April 20, 2016

Self-reminder when going through hellish work weeks.

Nathan Spiwak

Shared October 14, 2016

I love this article. Read it last year.

Mohammad Kermani

Shared October 15, 2016

That was really true. I can aslo call it, going out of your comfort zone.

Kanishka Anand

Shared October 16, 2016

How do you choose to suffer?

Anantha Mahadevan

Shared October 25, 2016

Choose your struggles wisely.... ultimately it is the struggles that determine your success..

Xinyi Tieu

Shared October 29, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

Olek Lebiedowicz

Shared November 25, 2016

About the importance of knowing what your favourite flavor of shit sandwich is.

peeyush tekriwal

Shared November 27, 2016

The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Jozef Brenkus

Shared January 2, 2017

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Jozef Brenkus

Shared January 2, 2017

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Jorge Lopez Diaz de Leon

Shared January 5, 2017

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

Andriy Bezemchuk

Shared January 21, 2017

question

Meena Iyer

Shared January 26, 2017

Hustle and hustle until you succeed.

neha munjal

Shared July 26, 2017

this

Janelle Almosara

Shared September 12, 2017

Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

Katerina Brus

Shared 5 days ago

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

Michael Eplee

Shared January 4, 2016

"Struggles determine your successes"

Marcelo Bahia

Shared January 7, 2016

I'm gradually concluding that this Mark Manson guy is one of the most sensible bloggers on the Internet

Desiree Yourczek

Shared January 10, 2016

"I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way."

Lizzie Sager

Shared February 5, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Lizzie Sager

Shared January 23, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Ben D

Shared January 9, 2016

This article is such a mess that I can't even, and I've never can't evened. Here are the two good points I extracted from it, though: 1) we are more likely to pursue goals when doing so is easy or we enjoy any challenges that may be involved; you may be on to something if you enjoy the inherent challenges, and 2) the importance of a goal is revealed to ourselves and those around us when we continue to pursue it despite it being challenging to do so; learn to recognize this and let go of the goals that are really just fantasies because you're unwilling to push through the challenges involved in achieving them.

Lisa Vehrenkamp

Shared January 12, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.”

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Ia Rigby

Shared February 26, 2016

The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Nadia Meloni

Shared April 2, 2016

Just makes sense.

Marc Torras

Shared August 5, 2016

Amazing and simple article on what actually defines which are not our dreams but our struggles: the ones we are willing to bear

RJ Valmadrid

Shared October 12, 2016

"I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way."

Rather than ask what you want, ask what you're willing to struggle for.

Karmi Phuc

Shared October 14, 2016

:)

PC Sharma

Shared October 23, 2016

great article .this is crystal clear what is in article.but I don't know why I did not adopt it. any way never late. cheers!


Stefan Lahr

Shared October 24, 2016

choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Daniel Ratner

Shared October 25, 2016

This is enlightening.

Stop asking yourself 'What do I want?' & start asking, 'What am I willing to struggle for?'

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Patrick Shortall

Shared October 26, 2016

You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?” Here’s a way better question
@iammarkmanson

fiercely modest

Shared November 27, 2016

What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Andi Bastian

Shared November 27, 2016

wow. thankyou

kawsar ul hoq

Shared December 22, 2016

Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Terri Wanjiku

Shared January 18, 2017

A must-read

Swathi Jb

Shared January 23, 2017

😊

Addy ianson

Shared January 23, 2017

Changed my perception drastically, just that wuest, just that mark! I know this is ubiquitous too...

Wael Yassir

Shared July 8, 2017

كتير من الناس بينبهروا
بقدرات ومعلومات ناس تانية: زي إنك تشوف مثلًا واحد بيشتغل Graphicsكويس جدًا، أو واحد بيلعب جيتار، أو حد
عنده كم مهول من المعلومات في مجالات مختلفة. ومع الانبهار داب يبقى عايز يبقى
عنده نفس المَلَكَة دي وف معظم الأحيان الشخص دا بيبدأ طريقه عشان يتعلمها، وف
معظم الأحيان مبيوصلش لحاجه.
في المقال دا الكاتب اتناول
الموضوع دا بأُسلوب جميل ودعمه بتجربة شخصية ليه، وكان الأساس اللي ارتكز عليه
واللي اعتبره سبب فشل الموضوع إنه الواحد بيبص دايمًا ع النتيجة، يعني لما انت
اتمنيت تعزف ع الجيتار مفكرتش ف ال Process اللي الشخص مر بيها عشان يتقن الموضوع دا:
من تدريب مستمر لسهر وغيره وغيره (ودا بالنسبة لبقيت الحاجات).
الانبهار بحاجه معينة ولمعة
العين اللي بتظهر ف بداية قرار ممارسة حاجه جديدة مش كفاية، إنما لازم يبقى الواحد
متأكد إن الموضوع دا هيتبعه تعب وسهر وأحيانًأ ساعات من الملل المستر عشان تتقن
جزء معين. عشان كدا في المقال دا الكاتب بينبه لحاجه زي كدا:
"I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I
wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but
only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way."

Ryan Bennett

Shared January 11, 2016

This is a fantastic article and point of view!

Jorem Nuevo

Shared April 9, 2016

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Matthew Barrett

Shared January 8, 2016

well, this certainly set the bar high for the most profound thing I've ever read in 2016

Amer Hamzeh

Shared January 9, 2016

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses.

Miguel Reyes

Shared January 9, 2016

No pain no gain.

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Corey McClain

Shared January 21, 2016

What are you willing to struggle for? Explores the meaning of the cliche 'no pain, no gain'.

Vincent Cheng

Shared February 1, 2016

Despite fantasizing about this for over half of my life, the reality never came. And it took me a long time and a lot of negative experiences to finally figure out why: I didn’t actually want it.

I was in love with the result—the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing—but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it. Repeatedly. Hell, I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried at all.

Vincent Cheng

Shared February 1, 2016

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Vincent Cheng

Shared February 1, 2016

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Vincent Cheng

Shared February 1, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.”

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Varun Anand

Shared May 23, 2016

Let's try to determine, how badly you want to succeed. And most importantly, at what ?

RJ Ampoloquio

Shared February 28, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for

Laura Stucki

Shared November 24, 2016

How much pain are you ready to handle? #coaching #goals #checkwithyourself

Chris Atkins

Shared January 22, 2017

Applicable in a number of ways. A great read.

Jacqueline Stark

Shared January 25, 2017

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for

freezetf TF

Shared January 4, 2016

The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Archy Nudalo

Shared January 11, 2016

Thank you Mark Manson

Gerilyn Manago

Shared January 19, 2016

Collect dreams, not fantasies.

Michael Lim June Kiat

Shared January 23, 2016

Just two important but profound questions: what are you willing to suffer for, and why?

SallyGrace Mindrebo

Shared January 24, 2016

I admire this article for its challenge to stop asking, "what do I want?" but, "what pain am I willing to sustain?" I think he's right, the latter will be more insightful.

Ohood Hassaan

Shared February 22, 2016

this will change the way u think in life!

sandipon paul

Shared February 25, 2016

worth you time ...

Jenny Feng

Shared February 28, 2016

"If you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs."

Andrea Mazzone

Shared July 9, 2016

So true!

Dave Mitchell

Shared October 14, 2016

The choose-your-own-pain adventure of a life well lived...

Dave Mitchell

Shared October 14, 2016

the choose-your-own-pain adventure of a life lived chasing what matters...

Dave Mitchell

Shared October 14, 2016

the choose-your-own-pain adventure of a life lived chasing what matters...

Vignesh Subramanian

Shared October 20, 2016

There's no better way to say this...

Rajan Pujara

Shared November 8, 2016

Yes. Almost perfect.

JM R

Shared November 21, 2016

Because happiness requires struggle.

Mark Kircher

Shared November 24, 2016

Wow. Thanks for writing. Your a very good writer, for certain. Able to bring the realism of our life's anxieties & conflicts.
Our country just elected a person who said -"yes, vote for me and I will solve your problems ". Yeah, sure?!

You obviously have "met Buddha on the road , killed him"......

Welcome my friend to the path!

Andy Hartup

Shared January 11, 2017

Sounds like Clickbait, but this is a smart piece of thinking.

Mariam Naguib

Shared January 18, 2017

Truth

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.”

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Kylie Shaw

Shared January 19, 2017

No i would not jummp

Aman Goyal

Shared January 28, 2017

People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.

Dhyey Pandya

Shared February 4, 2017

one of THE best articles.relatable af.❤️

Aman Goyal

Shared February 11, 2017

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?

Tia Cooper

Shared February 20, 2017

"What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life."

Tia Cooper

Shared February 20, 2017

"if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. "

anthony ibe

Shared March 15, 2017

"what pain do you choose to suffer?"
Never thought of it like this before, ever. It puts a lot of things in perspective for me right now now.

Rory Barrett

Shared March 16, 2017

Great read. The honesty is always refreshing in a world full of fantasies and dreamers.

Derek Lords

Shared March 19, 2017

Nice reminders

Guido

Shared April 17, 2017

They settle and wonder “What if?” for years and years and until the question morphs from “What if?” into “Was that it?”

Joe McLain

Shared July 4, 2017

What is the pain that you want to sustain? love this question and article!

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend

Selby Cary

Shared July 16, 2017

Ask yourself this question before making your choices

Rakhilya Lála Ibildayeva

Shared August 17, 2017

Tol many words for nothing, but these are wprth it.

I was in love not with the fight but only the victory.

Anton Melekh

Shared August 19, 2017

happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

Hien Pham

Shared August 20, 2017

Another point of view of how we can achieve things :)

Shaiful Aiman Malik

Shared October 27, 2016

What is the pain you want to sustain? we all love the result of being successful, we didnt love the process to be successful

Sarah Schumacher

Shared January 12, 2016

This is fantastic.

Diego Marconatto

Shared January 16, 2016

"Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

That answer will actually get you somewhere. It’s the question that can change your life. It’s what makes me me and you you. It’s what defines us and separates us and ultimately brings us together".

Michael Williams

Shared January 11, 2016

Good questions get better answers. Especially when looking at your life.

David Cooper

Shared March 13, 2016

Excellent read!

Vance Tran

Shared August 2, 2016

The daily drudgery of practicing, the logistics of finding a group and rehearsing, the pain of finding gigs and actually getting people to show up and give a shit. The broken strings, the blown tube amp, hauling 40 pounds of gear to and from rehearsals with no car. It’s a mountain of a dream and a mile-high climb to the top. And what it took me a long time to discover is that I didn’t like to climb much. I just liked to imagine the top.

Kostya Danilov

Shared January 21, 2017

Amazing article. A+

Archie ZHANG

Shared March 28, 2017

I like this one, and the most impressive sentence is that "Hell. I didn't even try hard enough to fail at it." I also like" I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn't". Awesome! This is exactly my future I bet.

Dora Fang

Shared February 21, 2017

are you willing to pay the cost?

Ricardo Fahrig

Shared April 21, 2017

First, I needed to finish school. Then, I needed to make money. Then, I needed to find the time. Then … and then nothing.

As iF A.

Shared January 3, 2016

Worth reading !

Haopei Yang

Shared January 3, 2016

"The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences."

Nazrin Japiril

Shared January 3, 2016

"The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life."

acer acertalk01

Shared January 5, 2016

yuo

admired

Dara Lan

Shared January 6, 2016

"What pain do you want in life?"

Emīls Māziņš

Shared January 6, 2016

Amazing.

Ceci Balocchi

Shared January 6, 2016

"I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only with the victory. And life doesn't work that way."

Demecos Chambers

Shared January 8, 2016

I've evolved personally and as a fear coach for my clients .

Adam Aguirre

Shared January 21, 2016

I can't believe how much this opened eyes , thank you !

Adam Aguirre

Shared January 21, 2016

I can't believe how much this opened my eyes , thank you !

Anna Siwecka

Shared January 30, 2016

"Maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn't what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don't actually want it at all." Wake up.

Odudu Udo

Shared February 1, 2016

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pre

Kimberly Caekebeke

Shared February 2, 2016

So interesting😵

Kris Coverdale

Shared February 24, 2016

Happiness is the easy answer. The hard answer is how to get there. What are you prepared to struggle for?

yijie Zhu

Shared February 24, 2016

our struggles determine our successes.

Whitney Punch

Shared April 9, 2016

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Whitney Punch

Shared April 9, 2016

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Morgan McPhearson

Shared April 25, 2016

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

jose alberto rodrigues

Shared May 5, 2016

Qual seu favorito aplicativo para ganhar?

Fabio Gonzaga

Shared October 9, 2016

A different question to determinate your objectives.

What are you willing to struggle for?

Devin Chopra

Shared October 10, 2016

What a paradigm shift in the self help space, a must read article and a brilliant one at that.

Bruna Salles Reis

Shared October 10, 2016

People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.

André Martho

Shared October 14, 2016

Um artigo incrível, falando como todos nós queremos o sucesso, mas o mais importante é querer a dor e sofrimento para alcançar esse sucesso.
Filosofia que pode que pode ser aplicada não só na profissão desejada, mas também em todos os aspectos da vida.

Alec Krosser

Shared October 25, 2016

Interesting perspective

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all

Christian Jerez

Shared October 27, 2016

"Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting."

Nathalia Louise Prado

Shared November 1, 2016

What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Angela Beltre Rosario

Shared November 4, 2016

I love it!😍👌🤘👏👏👏👏👏👏

Brenda B

Shared November 9, 2016

Let's be honest with ourselves:

Lau Sifontes

Shared November 17, 2016

trueeeee

Jesus Enrique Franco Martinez

Shared November 23, 2016

¿Por qué estás dispuesta/o a luchar?

Angel Alavar

Shared November 27, 2016

hmmm

Grace

Shared November 27, 2016

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

adriana diaz

Shared December 5, 2016

Great

Haryono Tang

Shared December 13, 2016

I didn't even think about it before.

aneesha sopori

Shared December 19, 2016

spot on!

Laetitia Saillen

Shared December 22, 2016

l envol

Daniel Munroe

Shared December 26, 2016

choose and choose again if needed

adriana diaz

Shared January 1, 2017

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.
This post originally appeared on MarkManson.net. Follow @iammarkmanson on Twitter.
 

Saidy E

Shared January 2, 2017

People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.

George Chen

Shared January 6, 2017

Point out one of my shortcoming or say mistake, dreaming and fantastic.

Erica Gutierrez

Shared January 14, 2017

It’s part of the game of love. You can’t win if you don’t play.

Erica Gutierrez

Shared January 14, 2017

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Erica Gutierrez

Shared January 14, 2017

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

Lorie Mae Bautista

Shared January 17, 2017

soo general yet so personal. a must read y'all. :)

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Mauro José Dias Martins Júnior

Shared January 20, 2017

vale a leitura

Sam Rothrock

Shared January 23, 2017

Finally an advise writer with balls!

NISHANT DUBEY

Shared January 27, 2017



Sophia Franzisky

Shared January 28, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Harish Hbk

Shared January 28, 2017

That was like a marvelous eye opener....loved it

yahui zhou

Shared February 3, 2017

beautiful!

Heather Rose

Shared February 10, 2017

you don’t end up attracting someone amazing without appreciating the emotional turbulence that comes with weathering rejections

Wendy Michael

Shared February 15, 2017

Most

Robroo Somkiadcharoen

Shared February 22, 2017

Me so recommend

Aleksander Fronczek

Shared February 22, 2017

Totally agree.

Anna Gaor

Shared March 22, 2017

💯🎯💖👏👏

"This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend."

Vinay Dogra

Shared March 27, 2017

thanks for writing this one ..

hm goutham

Shared March 29, 2017

beautifully written !

alexander v. morea

Shared March 31, 2017

shifting to the right question

Nikhil Chadha

Shared April 3, 2017

"ubiquitous"

Nikhil Chadha

Shared April 3, 2017

"obnoxious"

Shivam Anand

Shared April 7, 2017

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Spencer Goldade

Shared April 8, 2017

Without struggle there is no true reward.

Dara Mawar

Shared April 17, 2017

For those who's been wondering and wandering.

Keith Makombora

Shared April 26, 2017

The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Keith Makombora

Shared April 26, 2017

The positive is a side effect of handling the negative.

Keith Makombora

Shared April 26, 2017

The positive is the side effect of handling the negative

Lauren Niederriter

Shared May 1, 2017

enlightening 💡

Aditya Jhalani

Shared June 7, 2017

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses.

Alexander Dobrokotov

Shared July 27, 2017

But the truth is far less interesting than that: I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.
I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.
Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

Lance Gundersen

Shared August 20, 2017

"Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?"

shivam goel

Shared August 27, 2017

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Mark Michael

Shared 4 days ago

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

Gabriel B.

Shared May 14, 2016

Great piece. The author uses his own experience with failing to learn guitar to illustrate his point. Basically, he liked the idea of being good at guitar a lot more than the process of actually developing the skill, and so it never happened. He wasn't willing to suffer to achieve his goal and so he didn't.

I feel like I'm surrounded by people like this who approach learning Chinese the same way. They come here and they spend a lot more time thinking about learning it and talking about how they're going to do it than actually putting in the time and the effort because that would get in the way of drinking themselves half to death several days per week. They can hardly order a beer in a bar in China without stumbling as a result. And isn't that ironic, don't you think.

Ahmed Gharib

Shared January 4, 2016

Incredible

Tetu Shani

Shared January 7, 2016

AMAZING!

Karl Jamoralin

Shared January 6, 2016

Our struggles determine our success.

Evan Tate

Shared January 7, 2016

Great article! Simple and true.

Catherine Erbland

Shared January 8, 2016

In case you haven't figured it out yet

Jeremy W

Shared January 24, 2016

How do you choose what or how to suffer?

Robert Sperring

Shared January 27, 2016

Make sure you read this please Livi. Xxx

Max Ramaciotti

Shared January 28, 2016

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Sheri Laffey

Shared May 7, 2016

A unique and interesting point!

Jayma Leavengood

Shared January 11, 2016

what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Setu Shah

Shared March 18, 2016

Among the best pieces I’ve ever read.
‘You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?”’

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Alex Spencer

Shared February 23, 2016

worth a read

Jessica Frisz

Shared January 23, 2017

Great reframing of goals and how much you want to achieve them.

Rubina Hyder

Shared January 28, 2017

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Harshal Mistry

Shared January 31, 2017

Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all

Sami Aviles

Shared April 27, 2017

This. All of this. What are you willing to struggle for?

Tracy Jackson

Shared September 1, 2017

"This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend."

Philo Rose

Shared January 21, 2017

cloth talk

John Weirick

Shared January 23, 2017

What are you willing to struggle for? One of the core themes of #TheVariableLife.

Tyler Studanski

Shared January 24, 2017

I like this perspective

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Hitesh Tejani

Shared January 25, 2017

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

David Bijl

Shared January 28, 2017

Finally some truth for a world where everyone is pursuing happiness...

Antonia Inri

Shared March 7, 2017

What are you wiling to struggle for?

Amanda Belina

Shared June 6, 2017

“What pain do you want to sustain?”

Özkan Karaman

Shared January 3, 2016

Great article,thank you.

Luis Arturo Ruiz Preciado

Shared January 3, 2016

"This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend."

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Larry Strawberry

Shared January 3, 2016

Wow great article! The author tells it like it is. Most people can't handle this advice.

J Mehta

Shared January 4, 2016

nice one

Eduard Ribas

Shared January 4, 2016

Sobre la dualidad de todas las cosas en la vida y elegir bien los sacrificios

Victor Lunn

Shared January 4, 2016

Hello baby

Inee Kristine Chico

Shared January 5, 2016

This is absolutely true. :(

sam dixon

Shared January 5, 2016

very good article

Iqbal Sjarief

Shared January 7, 2016

ubiquitous

Ibrahim Jalloh

Shared January 6, 2016

Very very Motivating!. As we all need to know where we are from before we actually know where we are going to.

Eda

Shared January 7, 2016

True.

Полина Бражникова

Shared January 7, 2016

это настолько очевидно, что аж оскорбляет: почему не я до этого додумался?

You can’t win if you don’t play.

Hamza Shaqman

Shared January 7, 2016

Most truthful thing about wanting and getting what you want i have read

Hanifa Dzikrina

Shared January 8, 2016

:')

what pain do you want in your life?

Mary Hanane

Shared January 8, 2016

i like it

Yücc Can

Shared January 8, 2016

commutes

Hana Villorente

Shared January 12, 2016

“What pain do you want to sustain?”

Ismael Hommani

Shared January 17, 2016

"what do i want ?" is not as powerfull as "what do i want to struggle for?" when wondering about the direction we want to take in life. this arricle shows us in what way.

Kenan Xelilli

Shared January 18, 2016

hi

Nitin Thampy

Shared January 18, 2016

so true

Hariss Mansoor

Shared January 20, 2016

Thought Provoking

Lelda Šaitere

Shared January 22, 2016

Truth what deep, deep inside most of us know, but try to 'hide' from ourselves. One of the best articles I've read lately.

Chee Boon Koh

Shared January 23, 2016

You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Huy Nguyen

Shared January 24, 2016

What pain are you willing to endure?

Janet De Los Angeles

Shared January 26, 2016

this is Hard.

amiel pineda

Shared January 31, 2016

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Malina Nash

Shared February 11, 2016

“How do you choose to suffer?”

Sachi Nissanka

Shared February 16, 2016

if you feel ,what do want.here is the answer

Nduku Wambua

Shared February 17, 2016

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Colleen Claes

Shared February 17, 2016

Our culture would tell me that I’ve somehow failed myself, that I’m a quitter or a loser. Self-help would say that I either wasn’t courageous enough, determined enough or I didn’t believe in myself enough. The entrepreneurial/start-up crowd would tell me that I chickened out on my dream and gave in to my conventional social conditioning. I’d be told to do affirmations or join a mastermind group or manifest or something.

But the truth is far less interesting than that: I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.”

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Pablo Jorge

Shared February 24, 2016

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

J.D.

Shared March 18, 2016

our struggles determine our successes

John Burnor

Shared April 3, 2016

Paradigm shifting. Better to know your real goals then to just "work hard" for what you think you want. Worth the read and then re-readings.

Titiek Pratiwi

Shared April 15, 2016

"I was in love with the result... but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed." Interesting article to choose your struggle wisely 👍🏽

David Friml

Shared May 14, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

David Friml

Shared May 14, 2016

So true !

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Laman Aliyeva

Shared July 25, 2016

😍

Nazirul Zakwan

Shared August 10, 2016

So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Selva Kumat

Shared October 8, 2016

yhhAAAa

roger cui

Shared October 14, 2016

你这样的生活到底为了什么,这让人心慌~

John Gld

Shared October 16, 2016

Because happiness requires struggle.

John Gld

Shared October 16, 2016

And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

John Gld

Shared October 16, 2016

You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns.

John Gld

Shared October 16, 2016

I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.

John Gld

Shared October 16, 2016

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process.

John Gld

Shared October 16, 2016

And life doesn’t work that way.

Wilkin Santana

Shared October 16, 2016

So cool.

Alessando Ceccarelli

Shared October 17, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Alessando Ceccarelli

Shared October 17, 2016

our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

David Vo

Shared October 17, 2016

What are you willing to struggle for, to be successful?

EMMA Fei

Shared October 19, 2016

"People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth."--------by the writer of this composition
Recently, I'm overwhelmed by the pressure of the upcoming TOEFL test. I'm really really exhausted but only to persist. Because I know what should sacrifice for your goal and dream.

BYoungblood96 .

Shared October 21, 2016

The positive is the side effect of handling the negative

Mustafa Ozdemir

Shared October 21, 2016

what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Mustafa Ozdemir

Shared October 21, 2016

People want a partner, a spouse. But you don’t end up attracting someone amazing without appreciating the emotional turbulence that comes with weathering rejections, building the sexual tension that never gets released, and staring blankly at a phone that never rings. It’s part of the game of love. You can’t win if you don’t play.

Mustafa Ozdemir

Shared October 21, 2016

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

Mustafa Ozdemir

Shared October 21, 2016

Despite fantasizing about this for over half of my life, the reality never came. And it took me a long time and a lot of negative experiences to finally figure out why: I didn’t actually want it.

Leanne Chee

Shared October 21, 2016

PREACH

huayling tan

Shared October 21, 2016

Perhaps tho

You can’t win if you don’t play.

Maicon Mauricio

Shared October 25, 2016

We also choose the path when we want to achieve something. If we don't want to pay the costs of it, we don't actually want it.

Erald Kullau

Shared October 25, 2016

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Erald Kullau

Shared October 25, 2016

For most of my adolescence and young adulthood, I fantasized about being a musician — a rock star, in particular. Any badass guitar song I heard, I would always close my eyes and envision myself up on stage playing it to the screams of the crowd, people absolutely losing their minds to my sweet finger-noodling. This fantasy could keep me occupied for hours on end. The fantasizing continued up through college, even after I dropped out of music school and stopped playing seriously. But even then it was never a question of if I’d ever be up playing in front of screaming crowds, but when. I was biding my time before I could invest the proper amount of time and effort into getting out there and making it work. First, I needed to finish school. Then, I needed to make money. Then, I needed to find the time. Then … and then nothing.

Despite fantasizing about this for over half of my life, the reality never came. And it took me a long time and a lot of negative experiences to finally figure out why: I didn’t actually want it.

I was in love with the result—the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing—but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it. Repeatedly. Hell, I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried at all.

Erald Kullau

Shared October 25, 2016

I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.”

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Carl B.

Shared October 26, 2016

I found this at my pocket app!! Such a good read. ❤

Carl B.

Shared October 26, 2016

I saw this in my pocket app!! Such a good read. ❤

4th& Vernon Montreal

Shared October 28, 2016

The 30's Come Marching in Hoorah horror

Staci Cates

Shared October 29, 2016

if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs.

Nafsika Tsouni

Shared October 30, 2016

Mind-opening and true.

Yagi Dojo

Shared October 30, 2016

Love it

yin estom

Shared October 30, 2016

哈哈

Mac Zcon

Shared October 31, 2016

Reality bits but it teaches a lot. Well written by the author. Appreciate the simple language too.

Say Ablay

Shared November 1, 2016

"The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life."

Jan Philip Stoffers

Shared November 1, 2016

this question has a huge impact

Kody DeSpain

Shared November 2, 2016

Everyone please read this. 🐙

ranjeet dadu

Shared November 2, 2016

like it

Mike Owens

Shared November 2, 2016

amazing good article

Hau Nguyen

Shared November 6, 2016

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

Gev Konni

Shared November 7, 2016

what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?

segarcar

Shared November 7, 2016

Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

segarcar

Shared November 7, 2016

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

segarcar

Shared November 7, 2016

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

segarcar

Shared November 7, 2016

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Leo Klis

Shared November 11, 2016

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Jason Lanham

Shared November 12, 2016

Very interesting perspective and refreshing as your make massive sweeping changes to implement this you simply have to be willing to alter your focus.

Rabii Desouki

Shared November 15, 2016

our struggles determine our successes.

Ranjan Arora

Shared November 15, 2016

Exactly what I believe and put forth in so much better words.

Sanjay Gond

Shared November 15, 2016

True

Heck Wei Yap

Shared November 19, 2016

The beautiful of STRUGGLE

Nitya Datta

Shared November 22, 2016

Need to ask !

Min Tan

Shared November 22, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

jun bersaluna

Shared November 23, 2016

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend

jun bersaluna

Shared November 23, 2016

component

Hannah Boianovsky

Shared November 24, 2016

Pra quem precisa ler alguma coisa nesse pre pas e pos enem super estressantes

Huda AlKubaisi

Shared November 25, 2016

I really do love it

Suhaim Abuhassan

Shared November 28, 2016

👌👍

Dazzlyn Kenneddy

Shared December 2, 2016

Life isn't roses and unicorns.

Dazzlyn Kenneddy

Shared December 2, 2016

Life isn't roses and unicorns.

子芸 曾

Shared December 3, 2016

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

Fábio Dias

Shared December 6, 2016

You can’t win if you don’t play.

Fratelin Wahiron

Shared December 9, 2016

goodread!

Dmitriy Schavlik

Shared December 9, 2016

Testing

Mark Eckenrode

Shared December 11, 2016

What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?

Andrew'sQ

Shared December 15, 2016

waw

Timothy Kimman

Shared December 16, 2016

I feel and think exactly the same. I'm working on a game for android and the struggle in programming is real. This is a real eye opener and having second thoughts on programming for a living and the way I am actually still thinking thnx

Sevinj Dadashova

Shared December 16, 2016

Great!

brijesh solanki

Shared December 19, 2016

i had dream but now i have burning desire after read this.

Zahra S

Shared December 21, 2016

First piece of fresh career advice I've stumbled upon in a while

fong wk

Shared December 21, 2016

one of the most realistic article about achieving goal. well, it emphasize more on the 'why' factor

Joel Capitao

Shared December 24, 2016

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for

Ashley Forlin

Shared January 1, 2017

Enjoy the struggle to enjoy the reward.

Mindy Drees

Shared January 2, 2017

This is a great way to look at things. If you know what you have to sacrifice to live a happy life, you are better prepared for the risks and failures that come with a great life.

Alexis Lam

Shared January 6, 2017

This is such a great read. Probably only 3 minutes, but it really got me into a new perspective of seeing the values of living. to some extent.

if the things that I want was really what I want. And how I would choose to suffer and to what extent. Pretty interesting.

Qiannvshi Qian

Shared January 6, 2017

Despite

hgdf

Shared January 7, 2017

goooood

Edwin Omoregie

Shared January 7, 2017

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

farah rizki

Shared January 7, 2017

this is good

Sourav Kundu

Shared January 8, 2017

An essential read for goal-oriented people

Stelle Baccay

Shared January 9, 2017

"This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend."

Rushabh Mehta

Shared January 11, 2017

everything has its price tag and you have to pay the price to get that thing

tc zhong

Shared January 13, 2017

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

dzaden

Shared January 14, 2017

Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

dzaden

Shared January 14, 2017

It’s a mountain of a dream and a mile-high climb to the top. And what it took me a long time to discover is that I didn’t like to climb much. I just liked to imagine the top.

Liu Junwei

Shared January 16, 2017

Wonderful words.

Victor Wong

Shared January 16, 2017

very interesting read, quite pertinent

Leon Labeouf

Shared January 18, 2017

Nailed it!!

Leon Labeouf

Shared January 18, 2017

Nailed it!!

Mohan Rao

Shared January 21, 2017

A very practical take on goal setting.

Deliana Swan

Shared January 21, 2017

this is huge

Danielle Grace Macariola

Shared January 24, 2017

judjuddd 💖

Aishwarya Agarwal

Shared January 25, 2017

very true, after reading this I think, I too , was only attracted to results and not process. we indeed need to love the process.

Aryanna Alviola

Shared January 26, 2017

Experience failure in order to reach success.

Tony Blanco

Shared February 5, 2017

Food for thought : une bonne question à se poser

Aakash Raj

Shared February 5, 2017

A true snippet that clearly tells us the difference between fantasy and reality.

Josef Wittmann

Shared February 8, 2017

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Sean Trinidad

Shared February 8, 2017

What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Thosan Girisona

Shared February 9, 2017

Bold and Clear

Shruthi A

Shared February 13, 2017

"Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for."

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Adrian Nadim

Shared February 14, 2017

Definitely an eye opener, simply a must read article

Vinícius Cavalcanti

Shared February 16, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

Nikki Bharti

Shared February 17, 2017

This one is really inspiring!!

Youcef Ben Becher

Shared February 17, 2017

Delicious excerpt from Mark Manson's "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck"

Rafael Zapeta

Shared February 24, 2017

👌🏽

sraah

Shared February 28, 2017

This!!!!

Omgggggg I'm so happy I downloaded the pocket app today to organize all my articles! Now I can be connected with even more like minded articles and keep the flow going!

I'm going to be an inspiration machine this year!! Stay tuned lots of good stuff


This article highlights that in order to reach your dreams you have to want to reach your failures too. They are inevitably part of the dream.

Dago Torres

Shared March 5, 2017

Read this...seriously, do it now!! Excelente artículo se los recomiendo!!

Nikolas Schmidt-Voigt

Shared March 8, 2017

I was in love with the result—the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing—but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it. Repeatedly. Hell, I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried at all.

Petra Bachanova

Shared March 5, 2017

"Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings."

Yoke Pean Thye

Shared March 12, 2017

"Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters"

Yung Kuei Kan

Shared March 14, 2017

光是「心想」,而缺乏「奮鬥」,怎能「事成」?多想一些自己樂意要去接受什麼「辛苦」與「挑戰」,而不是一直問自己想要的是「甚麼」。奮鬥的過程才是生活的本質與個人風格的實現。

Vikramsingh Rathore

Shared March 16, 2017

hay

Marcell Balázs

Shared March 18, 2017

Masterpiece 👌

Laura GGG

Shared March 19, 2017

True dat

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Yamira Bordas

Shared March 20, 2017

Choose your struggle wisely 💗😜🤗

Maina King'ori

Shared March 21, 2017

Wow.

Hessa M

Shared March 22, 2017

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences

Haggai Mandefu

Shared March 23, 2017

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Bella Chu

Shared March 23, 2017

I need to change by myself.

kunal choudhary

Shared March 31, 2017

Indeed, end result matters, but what's more important is the person you become in the process.

Mara Chan

Shared April 1, 2017

"A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out."

Divyashree Shukla

Shared April 2, 2017

Thought provoking!

Dheeraj Chetiwal

Shared April 4, 2017

one hell of a reason why I failed...

Raja Singh

Shared April 5, 2017

"Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence—but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks,"

Alan Walker

Shared April 1, 2017

Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

samuel konadu

Shared April 7, 2017

A though question no doubt in some quaters

Chris Wu

Shared April 8, 2017

"If you want the benefits of something, you also have to want the costs."

sudaka loko

Shared April 9, 2017

siiii oki ir uruguayo i i uu ti huy y ies oigo huy je iu uuuu h su u mo unos uu

Ahmad Abdolah

Shared April 10, 2017

😘😘😘

Arina Anwsmwv

Shared April 12, 2017

You can’t win if you don’t play.

Sean Giorgianni

Shared April 20, 2017

"what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out."

Mushvig Imamverdiyev

Shared April 22, 2017

Here it is article suggested

Erika Hufano

Shared April 22, 2017

"What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”"

Deyesta Naedy

Shared April 25, 2017

Must read!👏🏼👏🏼

Cesar Duenas

Shared April 25, 2017

Achieving happiness and success requires enduring, dreaming of and appreciating the struggles necessary to achieve that happiness and success. Success and happiness require work that is often too little considered because we dream of the end state. Without seriously considering the path that gets to the goal, a path full of challenge and even failures, the goal will never be reached.

Fachrul Alrista Darajat

Shared May 5, 2017

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with.

Aubane Morlot

Shared May 13, 2017

waou !!!!!!!😱😱

desmaraine julia

Shared May 27, 2017

je pance que cest bien

Celine

Shared June 5, 2017

Sharing this again because I'm contemplating about my life choices

but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. And so they settle.

Jean Bondoc

Shared June 7, 2017

What are you willing to struggle for?

Joseph Knapp

Shared June 7, 2017

Found this interesting.

Kelly M

Shared June 7, 2017

I wanted a working PC I built myself, but I wasn't willing to go through the pain of repairing it when it stopped turning on.
I want to cycle and I put in the work to clean and repair and ride my bike.
I wanted to be an artist but I stopped practicing and drawing new things and fell into portraits and trees.
I want to be better at Japanese and I put in the study necessary by talking in Japanese, reading aloud, studying for JLPT
I wanted to be an economist, but everyone I met in the industry was shitty and I didn't want to deal with them.
I want to start a bike rental service on the side of my main job, and I'm willing to move to Tokyo and pay higher rent and learn bicycle repair and business practices to do it.
I want to become a blogger because I enjoy the photography, the writing, and the web design/UX aspects of it.
I want to work in politics because I believe it's important and I can drive LGBT- and international-friendly policies
I want to work in Marketing because... I can make money? (weak.)

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Fran

Shared June 12, 2017

THIS IS VERY GOOD READ

Anthony Choy

Shared June 13, 2017

It's not about what we want to do, but what we are willing to suffer or struggle for. Doing anything requires suffering and struggling, they are the process as well as things that just come naturally from outside of any endeavours. What are we willing to do that we don't mind keep doing despite all the inevitable sufferings?

segarcar

Shared June 13, 2017

our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely

Laura 09

Shared June 13, 2017

Because happiness requires struggle.

Laura 09

Shared June 13, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Laura 09

Shared June 13, 2017

ou can’t have a pain-free life.

Laura 09

Shared June 13, 2017

You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters.

Laura 09

Shared June 13, 2017

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Zayil Vargas

Shared June 14, 2017

You can’t win if you don’t play.

Ramazan Dogan

Shared June 21, 2017

Check this out!

Candy Greenblott

Shared May 8, 2017

Really wise words. One concise piece of advice.

Alaa Elbadrawy

Shared June 26, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Alaa Elbadrawy

Shared June 26, 2017

There’s a lot of crappy advice out there that says, “You’ve just got to want it enough!”

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren’t aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want “enough.”

Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten thousand.

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

Alaa Elbadrawy

Shared June 26, 2017

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Alaa Elbadrawy

Shared June 26, 2017

Despite fantasizing about this for over half of my life, the reality never came. And it took me a long time and a lot of negative experiences to finally figure out why: I didn’t actually want it.

I was in love with the result—the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing—but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it. Repeatedly. Hell, I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried at all.

Alaa Elbadrawy

Shared June 26, 2017

Our culture would tell me that I’ve somehow failed myself, that I’m a quitter or a loser. Self-help would say that I either wasn’t courageous enough, determined enough or I didn’t believe in myself enough. The entrepreneurial/start-up crowd would tell me that I chickened out on my dream and gave in to my conventional social conditioning. I’d be told to do affirmations or join a mastermind group or manifest or something.

But the truth is far less interesting than that: I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Alaa Elbadrawy

Shared June 26, 2017

The daily drudgery of practicing, the logistics of finding a group and rehearsing, the pain of finding gigs and actually getting people to show up and give a shit. The broken strings, the blown tube amp, hauling 40 pounds of gear to and from rehearsals with no car. It’s a mountain of a dream and a mile-high climb to the top. And what it took me a long time to discover is that I didn’t like to climb much. I just liked to imagine the top.

Alaa Elbadrawy

Shared June 26, 2017

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.”

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Vnk Kristov

Shared June 30, 2017

Great little article about goals, rewards, and the real sacrifices needed to achieve them.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Mike Ivancie

Shared July 2, 2017

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

Prashanth Ramdas

Shared July 5, 2017

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences.

Ankur Srivastava

Shared July 13, 2017

True.

Steve Romain

Shared July 15, 2017

Who has learnt these lessons.
Hands up!!
A lot of us.

Another long thoughtful read.
Lots of material for the memesmiths.

Mono Yan

Shared July 17, 2017

"Want " and "do"

Diana Perez

Shared July 28, 2017

Everyone Should Read This, Simply Said.

Kaushik Mukherjee

Shared July 29, 2017

"Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten thousand."

One of the best pieces I've read in a long while. If you haven't read this already, make your Sunday worthwhile and spare a minute on the question this article asks.

Nada Mohamed

Shared August 2, 2017

wooooow 👏👏👏👏💜

Erica

Shared August 5, 2017

"I was in love with the result, but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it. Repeatedly. Hell, I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried at all."

Mohit Gupta

Shared August 7, 2017

One of the best article I have read in the long time

shradha sorte

Shared August 10, 2017

very inspiring

Paul Eden

Shared August 12, 2017

What we get is defined by the end results we are willing to struggle for and each end result has different struggles.

Thanh Mai

Shared August 20, 2017

"Enjoy the struggle", a very good phrase to keep in mind.

Rosmery Veras

Shared August 25, 2017

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Edward Matthews

Shared August 27, 2017

Awesome article. Really had me reflecting on what I really want in life. Highly recommend, if you haven't read yet!🤔

Joanne Sanchez

Shared August 27, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Because happiness requires struggles. - Mark Manson

The author made an incredible point about life and happiness. Then I remember that it's National Heroes Day today. Maybe back then they already realized what pain they are willing to sustain so that we could have our freedom today.

Defalt Carmine

Shared August 28, 2017

Very much eye opening and worth the read.

Henok Wassie

Shared August 30, 2017

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Danilo Sousa

Shared August 29, 2017

But the truth is far less interesting than that: I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.

Masdodi Maskanda

Shared August 31, 2017

It shows me how shame on me I am.

varsha barsinge

Shared August 27, 2017

The positive is the side effect of handling the negative

Anitesh Yadav

Shared September 7, 2017

what if sometime we struggled and nothing happened

匕 日久

Shared September 7, 2017

admonishment

Carlos Andres Perez Guzman

Shared September 7, 2017

Definitely!!!

Myk Mingo

Shared September 10, 2017

The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

Amit Lingwal

Shared September 6, 2017

Mean

ubiquitous

Ahyana Rizky

Shared September 13, 2017

"What pain do you want in your life?"

Christopher Edwin

Shared 6 days ago

Very Good

Glitch McChatter

Shared 5 days ago

Everyone I know needs to stop, take 5-10 minutes to read this short article. I promise you won't regret it. If you do regret it then please message me & let me hear your perspective on the topic.

Sherry Julisa

Shared 3 days ago

That's true.

Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Tara Spengen

Shared March 7, 2016

Interesting Read

Anton van Hamel

Shared January 3, 2017

into this!

curtis din

Shared January 4, 2017

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

Maria Walsh

Shared January 5, 2016

Thought provoking...

ester du toit

Shared January 6, 2016

One of the best articles I've read in a long time!

Aadam

Shared January 6, 2016

What pain do you want?

Juan Ruiz

Shared January 10, 2016

"This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend." Mark Manson

Rachel Santos

Shared January 10, 2016

"What is the pain that you want to sustain?"

Wout

Shared January 12, 2016

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

collins mwadime

Shared May 3, 2016

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything

collins mwadime

Shared May 3, 2016

f I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything

Pedro Fonseca

Shared May 29, 2016

Looking beyond the curve

Mike

Shared January 6, 2016

Interesting, I agree.

Anshuman Chauhan

Shared January 7, 2016

Best motivating article I read in months

Pieter Leon

Shared January 7, 2016

Dromen verwezenlijken, anders bekeken :)

Arun Kannan

Shared January 7, 2016

A good way to separate dreams from real aspirations.

Dane Rossenrode

Shared January 9, 2016

Starts a little corny, but turns out to be a real gem of an article!

Chong Park

Shared January 12, 2016

all questions are important, but there are a few that are really important on a long term perspective....

Matthew Martin

Shared January 12, 2016

great way to think about goals and what to focus on

our struggles determine our successes.

Farh Y

Shared January 17, 2016

Our culture would tell me that I’ve somehow failed myself, that I’m a quitter or a loser. Self-help would say that I either wasn’t courageous enough, determined enough or I didn’t believe in myself enough. The entrepreneurial/start-up crowd would tell me that I chickened out on my dream and gave in to my conventional social conditioning. I’d be told to do affirmations or join a mastermind group or manifest or something.

But the truth is far less interesting than that:

Mary Ellen Winegardner

Shared January 17, 2016

Good article on what we really want in life....

Burr BestCom

Shared January 24, 2016

Found this to be true.

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Marc Custis

Shared March 22, 2016

How True.

Dave Byrnes

Shared January 8, 2016

Read this article if you are seriously or even half-arsed chasing a goal. It will strip back the layers of fluff as only a Mark Manson article can.

Luís Filipe Fernandes Almeida

Shared March 9, 2016

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

michael johnson

Shared December 29, 2016

The pain you choose to sustain. Interesting for all dreamers.

Nisha Shenoy

Shared October 3, 2016

Good read on a Monday morning!!

Shannon Harrison

Shared January 21, 2017

The better question: What type of pain do you want in your life? LOVE IT! DING DING DING!!!!

"I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way."

Natapong Thongkamkoon

Shared January 21, 2017

Choose your struggles wisely!

Nadia Niaz

Shared January 22, 2017

I'm willing to go through losing this little pup for the joy of having a dog in my life while I can, all over again. Yes I thought about it carefully.

Omer Yarkowich

Shared January 22, 2017

Made me take a complete new look at the world around me.

Recommended to all those who find themselves at the great crossroads of their lives.

Ursula

Shared January 22, 2017

I know what mine is. I like this.

Eddie Wilkerson

Shared January 25, 2017

Interesting perspective in this article, thought you might enjoy it. Let me know what you think.

anastasia shakhaeva

Shared January 28, 2017

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Christopher Ming

Shared January 29, 2017

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Rabab Al Haddad

Shared February 7, 2017

Beautifully written article

Everton Elioterio

Shared March 2, 2017

I don't really share my readings here, but as I'm on this struggle road right now I would love to share it with you who is working hard for to achieve your goals #theStruggleISreal

Giovana Nahas

Shared April 18, 2017

bem interessante. é algo que quero explorar mais em mim, pq tenho sido muito imediatista ultimamente. e acho que, de fato, ainda não consegui escolher que batalhas quero travar / que batalhas eu vou "curtir" - se é que isso existe

Suzi C.

Shared April 29, 2017

Another good article.

Vasudha Chandak

Shared May 6, 2017

This !! ❤️

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Vasudha Chandak

Shared May 6, 2017

This !! ❤️

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Audrey R

Shared May 11, 2017

what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Audrey R

Shared May 11, 2017

what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Javier Diez

Shared May 22, 2017

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Bryan Fox

Shared June 5, 2017

Interesting twist on the concept of wanting something bad enough. It's really more about how willing are you to work for it, and at what level of sacrifice.

Sean Giorgianni

Shared June 16, 2017

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting.

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” That tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. Pleasure is an easy question. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Steven

Shared June 28, 2017

Our struggles determine our successes

Sean Kelly

Shared June 29, 2017

You may already know you do this, but a better way of looking at what you want to get out of life.

Steve Wilson

Shared July 9, 2017

How bad do you want it?

Marlontosi

Shared July 11, 2017

Great article.

Kevin Jauregui

Shared August 31, 2017

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Kevin Jauregui

Shared August 31, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Ana Laura Ferrari

Shared August 31, 2017

Oi amores! Inaugurando essa nova rede social incrível e muito nerd que encontrei, recomendo um texto bom pra reflexões da vida! Leiam quando tiverem tempo. Parece meio livro de auto-ajuda mas juro que é bom! Beijos

almondeye

Shared January 21, 2017

an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed

Jeff Isaacs

Shared January 21, 2017

Well maybe!..

Marvin Vreman

Shared January 22, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

Jim Wheeler

Shared January 22, 2017

A very good article. Goes beyond the usual "What do you want?" or "What do you enjoy?" and asks about another factor that is really, really key, as I think about my own and others' experiences.

I will say that one thing the author does not point out is the level of faith or belief a person has in the possible result/outcome. I believe there is a direct relationship between what we are willing to do or endure (and for how long) and our level of certainty that the outcome is achievable and will be "worth it" when it happens.

Evandro Junqueira Figueiredo

Shared January 26, 2017

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Evandro Junqueira Figueiredo

Shared January 26, 2017

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence—but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell.

Evandro Junqueira Figueiredo

Shared January 26, 2017

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.

Evandro Junqueira Figueiredo

Shared January 26, 2017

Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

Evandro Junqueira Figueiredo

Shared January 26, 2017

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”

Evandro Junqueira Figueiredo

Shared January 26, 2017

I was in love with the result—the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing—but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it. Repeatedly. Hell, I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried at all.

Evandro Junqueira Figueiredo

Shared January 26, 2017

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Evandro Junqueira Figueiredo

Shared January 26, 2017

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

C. Harris

Shared January 28, 2017

The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences

Ginny Marksl

Shared January 28, 2017

..so true... a definite question to ask myself from now on-- moving forward in life:) More than that, I'd ask the same question in my line of work and in any situation that calls for it😉

Thierry

Shared February 1, 2017

How much?

エマ こ

Shared February 5, 2017

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

エマ こ

Shared February 5, 2017

People want an amazing physique. But you don’t end up with one unless you legitimately appreciate the pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating and calibrating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny plate-sized portions.

shery ann omictin

Shared February 5, 2017

Dear writer,
It feels like you are talking to me :)

Jordan Dexter

Shared February 9, 2017

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory.

Juan Robredo

Shared February 14, 2017

Choose your struggles wisely...

Evan Hammer

Shared February 14, 2017

The path to your dream is filled with struggle. Find the pain you can sustain - that is the secret to success. This advice has the potential to be life changing

Matt Rider

Shared February 21, 2017

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

William Kwok

Shared April 7, 2017

You might not know what you want exactly, but you certainly know what you don't want.

Elizabeth Njogu

Shared April 18, 2017

I have been caught in this loop a lot but never has the right question ever been so on point or on time.