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Guillaume VENDÉ

Shared March 18, 2017

Hey ! Je recommande un article intéressant par jour sur http://getpocket.com/@GuillaumeVende ! Voici celui du jour !

Karthik Margabandu

Shared January 8, 2017

Wow! Living life like a surfer - a brilliant analogy. Good read

Robert Straus

Shared January 13, 2017

The Unexpected Antidote to Procrastion - Make Yourself Uncomfortable! You'll grow! #selfawareness #hbr

Brian Schnack

Shared February 6, 2017

Get out there and do the uncomfortable

Soon, you won’t fear feeling. You’ll pursue it like those courageous early morning surfers

Liviya Simmons

Shared January 1, 2017

Whoa my god.

Nikolay Syusko

Shared February 22, 2017

Какое внимательное замечание! Мне знаком страх "отказа". Я знакомился с девушкой вживую только однажды. По иронии судьбы после пришлось работать "продажником", где новые знакомства - норма.

А что, если действительно признать падения-отказы такой же нормой жизни, как и успех?! Ведь без одного другого не бывает.

Kavit Haria

Shared February 25, 2017

What if we all lived life like a surfer on a wave?

William Green

Shared March 28, 2017

Seeking out the boundaries in your thinking.

Richard Shahi

Shared January 7, 2017

Fizzle or failure, you end up in the water.

But here’s what I found most interesting: The only difference between a failure and a fizzle was the element of surprise. In all cases, the surfer ends up in the water. There’s no other possible way to wrap up a ride.

Jochen Breuer

Shared February 10, 2017

In the end we all fall.

Ana Pereira

Shared March 14, 2017

Have fun failing? :-)

Shannon Low

Shared December 18, 2016

Surfing, apparently.

Javier Villalba

Shared March 2, 2017

"Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate."

Natascha Symanski

Shared March 3, 2017

Loved it

Fern Lim

Shared April 7, 2017

Feel and experience instead of avoiding!

Fern Lim

Shared April 7, 2017

Feel and experience instead of avoiding!

Rose Barroga

Shared February 8, 2017

Love.

Martin Merrigold

Shared March 6, 2017

Surf's up!

"Here’s the thing: More often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time."

Leslie McIntire

Shared February 15, 2017

I find myself avoiding unpleasant conversations with my manager. This column made me rethink my approach to those difficult conversations.

Douglas Reyes

Shared February 7, 2017

Wow!

Bijay Gurung

Shared March 1, 2016

Accept the outcome instead of dreading it.

Devin Parker

Shared January 3, 2017

I love the comparison

Mark Coates

Shared January 16, 2017

Live like a surfer—catch a wave and ride it all the way, fall into the water, get back up on the board, paddle to the next wave and do it all again.

Tracy Chau

Shared February 3, 2017

And feel it all. Feel the anticipation of the risk. Feel the pre-risk cringe. Then, during the risk, and after, take a deep breath and feel that too.

Greg Sweatt

Shared February 13, 2017

Fear of failure, or the unknown, prevents so many from taking action.

Saleh Alqaryan

Shared February 24, 2017

The only reason you procrastinate is because you're afraid of your feelings. I can't agree more.

Ludek Slegr

Shared March 1, 2017

Very good description of us trying to avoid something potentially unpleasant. That often does not even happen.

88 pocket2013

Shared March 3, 2017

Have that difficult conversation. Listen without defensiveness when your colleague criticizes you. Name the elephant in the room. Get rejected.

Crystal D'souza

Shared March 4, 2017

Get up and do it again.
Feeling = being alive

John Studdard

Shared December 20, 2016

A perfect analogy on how to overcome Procrastination

Annie Carson

Shared February 7, 2017

Failure is an option.

Here’s the thing: More often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time. We feel the suffering of procrastination, or the frustration of a stuck relationship. I know partnerships that drag along painfully for years because no one is willing to speak about the elephant in the room. Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate. But how?

Practice.

Roger Brunswick

Shared February 7, 2017

another random article....

Rami Alloush

Shared February 9, 2017

Loved it

Khalid Sarfaraz

Shared March 20, 2017

You need need to have the feeling of failure.

Venkatesh Madihalli

Shared February 15, 2016

Seems a practical and sensible idea !

Clio Loughran

Shared January 1, 2017

💥

David Plúa

Shared December 29, 2016

https://hbr.org/2013/05/the-unexpected-antidote-to-pro

amir shah

Shared December 31, 2016

That got me thinking: What if we all lived life like a surfer on a wave?

The answer that kept coming to me was that we would take more risks.

That difficult conversation with your boss (or employee, or colleague, or partner, or spouse) that you’ve been avoiding? You’d initiate it.

Matt Rider

Shared December 31, 2016

Live like surfers shred

Chinenye Agwu

Shared January 5, 2017

Amazing piece-- very inspiring.

Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate. But

Chinenye Agwu

Shared January 5, 2017

Amazing piece-- Very inspiring.

Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate. But how?

Chinenye Agwu

Shared January 5, 2017

Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate.

Karen Dellatan

Shared January 10, 2017

Wow. I'll stop procrastinating na. 😊

Sean Trinidad

Shared February 1, 2017

What if we all lived life like a surfer on a wave?

Cheri Orsi

Shared February 12, 2017

"More often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time.". ... the truth about procrastinating.

Alisa Igorevna Kondrashova

Shared February 13, 2017

Useful!

halle✧.°

Shared February 16, 2017

So why don’t we live life that way? Why don’t we accept falling — even if it’s a failure — as part of the ride?

Because we’re afraid of feeling.

Reis pocket

Shared March 15, 2017

"A recent early morning hike in Malibu, California, led me to a beach, where I sat on a rock and watched surfers. I marveled at these courageous men and women who woke before dawn, endured freezing water, paddled through barreling waves, and even risked shark attacks, all for the sake of, maybe, catching an epic ride.

After about 15 minutes, it was easy to tell the surfers apart by their style of surfing, their handling of the board, their skill, and their playfulness.

What really struck me though, was what they had in common. No matter how good, how experienced, how graceful they were on the wave, every surfer ended their ride in precisely the same way: By falling.

Some had fun with their fall, while others tried desperately to avoid it. And not all falls were failures — some fell into the water only when their wave fizzled and their ride ended.

But here’s what I found most interesting: The only difference between a failure and a fizzle was the element of surprise. In all cases, the surfer ends up in the water. There’s no other possible way to wrap up a ride.

That got me thinking: What if we all lived life like a surfer on a wave?

The answer that kept coming to me was that we would take more risks.

That difficult conversation with your boss (or employee, or colleague, or partner, or spouse) that you’ve been avoiding? You’d initiate it.

That proposal (or article, or book, or email) you’ve been putting off? You’d start it.

That new business (or product, or sales strategy, or investment) you’ve been overanalyzing? You’d follow through.

And when you fell — because if you take risks, you will fall — you’d get back on the board and paddle back into the surf. That’s what every single one of the surfers did.

So why don’t we live life that way? Why don’t we accept falling — even if it’s a failure — as part of the ride?

Because we’re afraid of feeling."

Forest Fire

Shared April 1, 2017

"And feel it all. Feel the anticipation of the risk. Feel the pre-risk cringe. Then, during the risk, and after, take a deep breath and feel that too."

Franco Gilio

Shared April 1, 2017

"Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate"

Vanessa Sebben

Shared April 12, 2017

Amazing article!

Lawrence, John Girot

Shared May 16, 2017

Because we’re afraid of feeling

Cinzia Pompa

Shared February 8, 2017

For some reason I felt like crying reading this. Probably because it's the truth. This article reminded me of something I read about making decisions (even the decision to quit or just not do anything) reducing anxiety. It seems deciding to just goddamn do it - accepting that you're going to fall - gets you going.

Junior Gonzalez

Shared February 8, 2017

Awesome, inspiring read.

Elizabeth Wawrzyniak

Shared March 23, 2017

Here’s the thing: More often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time. We feel the suffering of procrastination, or the frustration of a stuck relationship. I know partnerships that drag along painfully for years because no one is willing to speak about the elephant in the room. Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate. But how?

Practice.

Fabio Paiano

Shared February 7, 2017

Importante lembrar disso, para não desanimar em dias como hoje...

Una Ng

Shared February 7, 2017

Because we’re afraid of feeling.

Think about it: In all those situations, our greatest fear is that we will feel something unpleasant.

Una Ng

Shared February 7, 2017

Which you get by taking risks, feeling whatever you end up feeling, recognizing that it didn’t kill you, and then getting on the board and paddling back into the surf.

Nazish .

Shared February 8, 2017

So the answer is Just do it...

Paul Scale

Shared February 8, 2017

Interesting analogy

Rosie Arnold

Shared February 9, 2017

The only difference between a failure and a fizzle was the element of surprise

Chad Bohac

Shared February 10, 2017

Good article! Only takes a few minutes!

Candy Greenblott

Shared February 16, 2017

Very well written, concise and to the point. I actually heard what you said and felt a little splash of sea water while doing so! Thanks.

Mike

Shared February 15, 2017

excellent

エマ こ

Shared February 26, 2017

And when you fell — because if you take risks, you will fall — you’d get back on the board and paddle back into the surf. That’s what every single one of the surfers did.

So why don’t we live life that way? Why don’t we accept falling — even if it’s a failure — as part of the ride?

エマ こ

Shared February 26, 2017

Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate. But how?

Practice.

エマ こ

Shared February 26, 2017

Which you get by taking risks, feeling whatever you end up feeling, recognizing that it didn’t kill you, and then getting on the board and paddling back into the surf.

エマ こ

Shared February 26, 2017

And