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  • Tomas Laurinavicius avatar

    Tomas Laurinavicius

    November 26, 2016

    Wealthy people can control themselves easier. Self-control is not really trainable, you have to plan to avoid it in the first place.

  • Palak Zatakia avatar

    Palak Zatakia

    December 6, 2018

    If we could stop worshiping self-control, maybe we could start thinking about diluting the power of temptation — and helping people meet their goals in new ways with less effort.

  • Yegwa Ukpo avatar

    Yegwa Ukpo

    November 26, 2016

    “Effortful restraint, where you are fighting yourself — the benefits of that are overhyped,” Kentaro Fujita, a psychologist who studies self-control at the Ohio State University, says.

    He’s not the only one who thinks so. Several researchers I spoke to are making a strong case that we shouldn’t feel so bad when we fall for temptations.

    Indeed, studies have found that trying to teach people to resist temptation either only has short-term gains or can be an outright failure. “We don’t seem to be all that good at [self-control],” Brian Galla, a psychologist at the University of Pittsburgh, says.

  • Aduke Thelwell avatar

    Aduke Thelwell

    January 2, 2019

    Interesting

    “People who are good at self-control … seem to be structuring their lives in a way to avoid having to make a self-control decision in the first place,” Galla tells me. And structuring your life is a skill.

  • Bianca V avatar

    Bianca V

    November 3, 2016

    Great article. Wish study explored the relation of poverty and self-control more. Galing

  • Raisa Roo avatar

    Raisa Roo

    January 2, 2019

    Some tips to help with all those new year resolutions from research on self-control. A lot of this makes sense, but always nice when research confirms certain beleifs and help diminish myths like we need more will power, when instead you simply have to find ways to work with how you are.

  • Alix Gerber avatar

    Alix Gerber

    November 11, 2016

    “Our prototypical model of self-control is angel on one side and devil on the other, and they battle it out,” Fujita says. “We tend to think of people with strong willpower as people who are able to fight this battle effectively. Actually, the people who are really good at self-control never have these battles in the first place.”

  • Adam Mann avatar

    Adam Mann

    November 27, 2016

    Self-control is more about crafting your environment than it is willpower.

  • MELISSIA LENOX avatar

    MELISSIA LENOX

    January 16, 2019

  • Georgi Halachev avatar

    Georgi Halachev

    November 24, 2016

    Great perspective on self-control.
    "People who are good at self-control … seem to be structuring their lives in a way to avoid having to make a self-control decision in the first place,”

  • Jem Arnold avatar

    Jem Arnold

    April 13, 2017

    If we could stop worshiping self-control, maybe we could start thinking about diluting the power of temptation — and helping people meet their goals in new ways with less effort.

  • Marc Soska avatar

    Marc Soska

    November 24, 2018

    This is not to say all effortful restraint is useless, but rather that it should be seen as a last-ditch effort to save ourselves from bad behavior.

  • Jason Miller avatar

    Jason Miller

    December 30, 2016

    There are allot of arguments on why #selfcontrol is overrated. If you are looking for excuses this article spares none. Work to engineer your life to remove regrettable choices and there is no decision and no need for self control #own2017

  • Chris FUNG avatar

    Chris FUNG

    January 22, 2017

    為什麼不能控制自己因為你抵抗不了誘惑

    Some people just experience fewer temptations

  • Precious Stephens avatar

    Precious Stephens

    February 6, 2017

    “We tend to think of people with strong willpower as people who are able to fight this battle effectively. Actually, the people who are really good at self-control never have these battles in the first place.”

  • ℗ Hines avatar

    ℗ Hines

    November 4, 2016

    🌹⌛️💰

  • Matt O avatar

    Matt O

    December 18, 2016

    That’s not in-the-moment willpower at play. It’s planning.

  • Charlie Pinker avatar

    Charlie Pinker

    January 2, 2017

    So much to think about and apply here. Willpower is not the holy grail - but instead structuring your life to reduce the need to apply willpower in the first place.

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