A Cure for Disconnection
Me: I should go out more often, to be more "cultured" and not seem too much like a hermit.
Also me: *gets invited to an event that starts at 8:30.
But Judge Judy comes on at 10???
*hems and haws about looking decent*
*hems and haws whilst traveling to said event*
*hems and haws about the scores of other people there. Tries to fight off impending anxious feelings*
*spends the next half an hour staring at someone, battling internal monologue because I think this person who seems interesting/a smoker will reject me simply for saying hi*
*Finally talks to interesting person/smoker, and exchange IG info because I'm low-key desperately trying to get more friends*
*is completely wiped out from that one exchange, hems and haws back home*
*arrives home just in time for Judge Judy and the Sims*
"There are, of course, many worse things for companies to sell us than the idea that taking time for yourself is a nice thing to do, but it is worth looking carefully at what’s happening here. The concept of self-care, which used to be about recognizing your own self-worth in a racist, misogynistic, capitalist society that tries to demean you, is now also a really great way for corporations to make a few bucks. Insisting on your own value as a person, regardless of your wealth or social status, becomes valuable precisely for the amount of money a company can make from it."
Also, perhaps it's because I'm melanated, but I've never had the desire to have toilet-colored skin.
This sort of puts the whole "I Got Into An Exclusive Sex Party And Was Underwhelmed" articles where the entry fee is a mere $200 to shame.
"Simon Baron-Cohen and his colleagues at Oxford University have found that awkward individuals have an unusually intense focus, which gravitates toward interests governed by rules, such as those of logic or math. Awkward people show an exuberance for taking things apart, obsessively studying the components, then systematically putting those parts together in a new way, which is why they are more likely to “nerd out” over fields like science, technology, engineering or mathematics and are drawn to leisure interests like gaming, collecting or, say, baseball statistics.
Their passionate, intense interest becomes even more interesting when one considers that researchers find a significant association between awkwardness and specialized talent. For example, Pedro Vital and his collaborators at Kings College found that the best predictor of striking talent in children was not their I.Q., but rather the kind of intense focus that is characteristic of awkward people. Not all awkward people will exhibit striking talent. But when their sharp focus, passionate interest and unusual perspective combine with a dash of natural ability, their interaction creates exciting possibilities."
"The more acute someone’s ability to perceive and assess, the more likely that person is to recognize his or her limits. These include the unevenness of any one person’s talents; the specific areas of weakness—social awkwardness, musical tin ear, being stronger with numbers than with words, or vice versa; and the incomparable vastness of what any individual person can never know. To read books seriously is to be staggered by the knowledge of how many more books will remain beyond your ken. It’s like looking up at the star-filled sky."
😂 😂 😂
Yup. I was called ditzy or ditzy, or told that I lacked common sense for a good chunk of my childhood. One teacher even told me she was going to get me a blond wig for Christmas 🙄
"One reason for the discrepancy is that, in girls, the disorder doesn’t always look the way we think it should: fidgety, energetic, distracting. In her book 100 Questions & Answers About Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Dr. Patricia Quinn, one of the great gurus of women with ADHD, writes that girls tend to be less disruptive than boys, manifesting their lack of attention in subtler ways — disorganization, distraction, and difficulty following directions. Even more hyperactive girls are less likely to be noticed. Instead of bouncing off the walls, “A girl with ADHD may be hypertalkative or hyperreactive (crying a lot or slamming doors) — behaviors one may not typically think of as being associated with ADHD.” Then there’s the sexist skepticism: She’s just a ditz."