Here's why your attitude is more important than your intelligence
Common sense would suggest that having ability, like being smart, inspires confidence. It does, but only while the going is easy. The deciding factor in life is how you handle setbacks and challenges. People with a growth mindset welcome setbacks with open arms.
While some doctors may have had their eyes set on a particular specialisation even before starting medical school, they don’t necessarily always end up with what they wanted to be.
In the end, what is important is coming to embrace whatever field they have chosen and finding fulfillment in its practice.
Say to boys: “I can see that you’re upset,” or ask them, “What are you feeling?” or “What’s going on for you right now?” There doesn’t have to be any grand plan beyond this, she says. “Just show up for them. Get them talking. Show that you want to hear what they’re saying.”
Rescuing her son would make Lahey feel like a good mom, but it would not help her son’s organizational issues. Parenting for the long term meant leaving the homework on the table and letting her son, and herself, suffer a bit.
Attorneys viewed higher-class candidates of either gender as being better fits with the culture and clientele of large law firms; lower-class candidates were seen as misfits and rejected. In fact, some attorneys even steered the lower-class candidates to less prestigious and lucrative sectors of legal practice, such as government and nonprofit roles, positions that tend to be more socioeconomically diverse than jobs at top law firms.
“They’re intrinsically egalitarian, attuned to fairness not in an activist manner, but in a kind of post-liberal, ‘the world is already as it should be’ kind of way,”
If people came up to you all day asking for $20 you’d tell them to get lost. But people do come up to you all day (or email, or text, or call) asking for your time. And you just hand it on over.
All of us will experience trials and difficulties. How we respond will determine whether we are going to win or lose in life.
Was I broke? Sure. Was I happy? You have no idea.
A relationship for a man shouldn’t be a cage of to-dos but a partnership with someone who so deeply shares his life purpose empowering him to do even greater things and not limiting him, giving him more confidence to try and try harder not discouraging him with fears.
But here's the caveat: If you expect something in return for your help, your act of kindness is really an act of trading favors. Be a giver, not a trader.
Nobody died. Again. Nobody died. And nobody will die if you continue to strive to learn and run away from ignorance as fast as you can.
Don't drown in the shallows. Start with the routines, the rituals. Deep work can take time, so better start right now.
The problem here is that spending time all by yourself is considered to be socially unacceptable. It is understandable, really.
Hatshepsut is dressed in a traditional restrictive ankle-length gown but with her feet wide apart in the striding pose of the king.
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"I don't want to know what a little me would be like. Have you met me? I can't even keep a plant alive."
A wider perspective on this issue of doctor shaming will bring us to the longstanding inadequate healthcare system, which is more pronounced in the public setting.
“A lot of dead guys have swastika tattoos,”
To be a good doctor, you must work harder, stay later, know more, and never falter.
You know what? All you really need is the caffeine. A Diet Coke sounds great.