Even when we get past introductions, we make all sorts of arbitrary assumptions about someone’s personality, interests, and hobbies. How can someone be a developer and not like video games, or Star Wars, or staying up all night programming while eating junk food? We tease each other for not living up to those assumptions by saying, “but every developer likes this!” Yes, there’s usually an intended humor in these comments, but they still make people uncomfortable: they vocally point out one’s differences with the subtext that there’s something wrong with them