How To Lead When You Have No Authority
Love is pushing energy toward them, not wanting or pulling their energy to you. Not sometimes, or “for as long as it seems fair.” Always. Love is never keeping score on energy exchange. Love is only offering. Anything else is attachment and ego.
The history of science — in particular the physical sciences, like physics and astronomy — can be told as the incremental realization that there is large-scale coherence in the universe.
queer people present a radical opposition to traditional ideas about family and community, that we can tear down oppressive ideas about what relationships and sex are supposed to mean
I'm not a parent, but I see this all the time and this statement so clearly expresses the observation
parents hinge their self-conception to little beast-angels who are free to self-destruct
no one HAS to do something he doesn’t want to do for the rest of his life. But then again, if that’s what you wind up doing, by all means convince yourself that you HAD to do it. You’ll have lots of company.
You don’t need control or authority to lead, because those aren’t real things. Instead what you need is empathy, vision, and a realistic understanding of what you can and cannot influence to direct your efforts.
Being a good manager is not about avoiding failure — it’s about enabling as many different paths forward as possible for as long as possible.
Throughout the night, it was clear that the point of these dialogues is not to change the other's mind. That would be a fruitless exercise, as history has taught us over and over. The point is to have an open mind about what the other is thinking, without resorting to some kind of primitive tribalism where the "other," the one with different opinions or values from you, is necessarily your inferior.
I'm struggling with the question rearchitecting our monolithic system at work with my team and this article provides some really good lessons and points to consider when looking to build microservices.
Really good reference for people designing RESTish APIs