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74 days ago

Mexico’s brain drain leaves universities struggling to fill research posts

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125 days ago

It’s anxiety-inducing because written communication is now designed to mimic conversation—but only when it comes to timing. It allows for a fast back-and-forth dialogue, but without any of the additional context of body language, facial expression, and intonation.

How It Became Normal to Ignore Texts and Emails

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125 days ago

6 essential tips for beginning freelancers

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128 days ago

Changing course is not a failure. Reacting to your immediate present and developing the ability to read personalities, interpret priorities, and figure out what people actually need vs. what they think they need is much more valuable than walking in the door and executing your original plan if it’s no longer appropriate.

Overcoming perfectionism is essential to freelancing success

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148 days ago

Why Self-Compassion Beats Self-Confidence

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162 days ago

And yet to confess to having been dealt even one good card in life invites the charge of not having succeeded on merit, which is why so many people refuse to accept it. We’d rather see ourselves as the deserving guys, the ones who made it against the odds, and so we dwell lovingly on the ways in which we were disadvantaged, because most people can tick at least one of those boxes too.

‘Check your privilege’ used to annoy me. Now I get it

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189 days ago

What helps you thrive in a changing world isn’t rocket science. It may just well be social science, and, yes, even the humanities and the arts that contribute to making you not just workforce ready but world ready.

The surprising thing Google learned about its employees — and what it means for today’s students

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189 days ago

‘Things have been going well. Do you think it would be fair to increase my salary at this point in time?’

Asking for a Raise, After 10 Years

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189 days ago

How to Meditate

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189 days ago

How to Be Better at Stress

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203 days ago

For a Better Marriage, Act Like a Single Person

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213 days ago

Mi año sin ir de compras

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213 days ago

Single, Unemployed and Suddenly Myself

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316 days ago

At the end of our call, she said, “Thank you for your advice. You’ve really helped me work some things out.”

The truth is, I hadn’t offered any advice. Most of what I said was a version of “That sounds tough. I’m sorry this is happening to you.” She didn’t need advice or stories from me. She just needed to be heard.

Why we should all stop saying “I know exactly how you feel”

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316 days ago

This is why asexuality is compelling, because it does imagine how it could be different."

And imagining how it could be different is something that has the potential to benefit us all. If we stop defining our significant relationships only as those that are romantic or sexual, being single will take on a whole new meaning. If we broaden our emotional focus from the person we share bodily fluids with to the sum of our friendships, acquaintances, and colleagues, our communities will grow stronger. If we stop treating penetrative sex as the be all and end all of physical intimacy, we will experience greater heights of pleasure. And if we can accept that although sex can be ecstatic and affirming and fulfilling, it is not all those things to all people all of the time, we will relieve it of some of its cultural baggage.

Ideally, says Przybylo, we would stop thinking of our sexual histories and desires as fixed and absolute, but rather as something more fluid, which can be dialed up or down, redirected entirely depending on how we feel, who we're with, and our inbuilt biological inclinations.

In other words, you might want to have sex five times this week, or you might not want to have sex at all. Your experience of desire might be intensely physical, or it might be indistinguishable from emotional attachment. You might experience next to no attraction for years, and then find yourself consumed with another person. At one point in your life, sex might be the ultimate thrill; at another, it might be boring and routine. And all of it is okay, and none of it marks the essence of who you really are.

Life Without Sex: The Third Phase of the Asexuality Movement

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Grace

328 days ago

we can derive satisfaction most when buying for others, when enriching ourselves, or when making thoughtful and deliberate purchasing decisions.

How to Avoid "Purchase Regret"

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330 days ago

"A completely unfussy, ordinary, neighborly person, who you'd never notice in a crowd, but whose deep goodness and sense of order and compassion saved the day."

Relationships Are More Important Than Ambition

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330 days ago

A great paradox of our hyper-connected digital age is that we seem to be drifting apart. Increasingly, however, research confirms our deepest intuition: Human connection lies at the heart of human well-being. It’s up to all of us — doctors, patients, neighborhoods and communities — to maintain bonds where they’re fading, and create ones where they haven’t existed.

How Social Isolation Is Killing Us

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330 days ago

Depression doesn’t diminish a person’s desire to connect with other people, just their ability.

Here’s how you can connect to friends who are depressed

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330 days ago

Was “Star Wars” always so philosophical? Or did it stumble into this glum view of life by accident, as its original saga repeated itself and its world, as a consequence, grew smaller and darker? Personally, I enjoy the dark undertones of “Rogue One” and “The Last Jedi.” I also suspect that they’re not really in the spirit of “Star Wars.” If the franchise is going to recapture the joy and dynamism it once had, it will have to break out of its loop—just as “Star Trek,” for example, has changed over the decades, incorporating new ideas (and bad guys). Perhaps the “Star Wars” franchise has fallen victim to an interpretive mistake. For many years, in trying to explain the appeal of the original films, fans and critics cited their mythic qualities; they read Joseph Campbell’s “The Hero with a Thousand Faces” and praised the movies’ supposedly “universal” dramatic shape. In fact, they had it backward. The magic of “Star Wars” was never the formula. It was novelty.

Why Are All “Star Wars” Movies the Same?

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342 days ago

Secrets of the Creative Brain

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342 days ago

Where do I put my Office Woman?

Many believe that Office Women feel most secure when situated at a desk outside of a man’s office. However, an Office Woman can be placed in any workspace where you would put a man. In fact, Office Women even like private offices, just like men do! Sure, it might seem funny at first to see that Office Woman sitting in there all alone like a man, but, trust us, she’ll be just fine.

Caring for Your New Office Woman

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Grace

352 days ago

May we remember the perspective we have gained, the lessons we have learned along the way. May we be brave enough to carry each of our scars with unwavering grace.

When You're 'Too Functional' to Have Your Mental Illness Taken Seriously

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352 days ago

In the best teams, members listen to one another and show sensitivity to feelings and needs.

What Google Learned From Its Quest to Build the Perfect Team

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352 days ago

"It's a normal cognitive glitch," Deffler says.

It's not related to a bad memory or to aging, but rather to how the brain categorizes names. It's like having special folders for family names and friends names stored in the brain.

When The Brain Scrambles Names, It's Because You Love Them

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352 days ago

The genomics is fairly certain- these are the remains of a woman who genetically was part of the Viking world, and who was interred in a Viking tomb with Viking material culture, specifically material culture associated with combat and warfare. It continues to be a challenge for some people to reconcile those variables. But those same people are missing the larger implications of the genomics study. The real questions, the interesting questions: what does it mean that Bj 581 was a female? What does this tell us about how Viking society was structured? Was Bj 581 unique, or did she represent a category of women that has been largely relegated to mythology?

How the female Viking warrior was written out of history

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379 days ago

Trying to mix work and free time runs the danger of never quite powering down or shutting off, and can lead to burnout and depression from feeling like you’re always on and available. To boot, your friends and family miss out on the time you would spend with them if you worked in an office instead of at home. Make sure to enforce your boundaries.

How to Work From Home

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379 days ago

“I don’t know — he might be,” Randolph told him. “But are you going to ‘what if’ this to death, or are you going to do it?”

Why Are More American Teenagers Than Ever Suffering From Severe Anxiety?

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385 days ago

“What’s likely to happen is we’re going to spend tens of billions of dollars rebuilding Houston exactly like it is now, and then wait for the next one,” says Rob Moore, a senior policy analyst on water issues for the Natural Resources Defense Council.

Houston’s flooding shows what happens when you ignore science and let developers run rampant

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402 days ago

The depth of many of these relationships wouldn’t be as possible if I was in more “traditional” relationships. But many of the ways I relate to others aren’t highly valued by the society.

I’m turning 40 without a partner, children or parents – and I’m free

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406 days ago

First, there is NREM sleep (non-rapid eye movement sleep); this is then followed by REM (rapid eye movement) sleep. When Walker talks about these cycles, which still have their mysteries, his voice changes. He sounds bewitched, almost dazed.

“During NREM sleep, your brain goes into this incredible synchronised pattern of rhythmic chanting,” he says. “There’s a remarkable unity across the surface of the brain, like a deep, slow mantra.

'Sleep should be prescribed': what those late nights out could be costing you

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406 days ago

This should give you some hope that you are not the victim of the traits with which you entered this world. Your deeds speak louder than your dispositions.

How our projects shape our personalities — and how we can use them to remake who we are

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407 days ago

How do you empower women in a professional setting?

Be willing to not be liked. “It’s not about being liked. It’s about your idea being heard,”

How to Tell if Someone Is Lying and 8 More Conversation Tips

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413 days ago

The goal, in other words, isn’t to master the art of controlling our internal experience. The goal is to learn to be with whatever is arising, pleasurable, painful, comfortable, or uncomfortable.

Being with Stressful Moments Rather Than Avoiding Them

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414 days ago

Sometimes when I’m rushing, I’ll notice that I’m “rushing home to relax.” In that moment I become present and realize that I don’t have to rush home to relax, I have arrived in the present moment

No Time for Mindfulness? Try This On-the-Go Walking Meditation

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554 days ago

I knew I had to acknowledge that this was difficult for me, that it was emotionally painful. I had to really think about being kind and caring and understanding to myself, letting myself feel whatever feelings were coming up, whether or not I thought I should be having them.

Why Self-Compassion Works Better Than Self-Esteem

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554 days ago

By taking off the pressure of having to excel at or master an activity, we allow ourselves to live in the moment. You might think this sounds simple enough, but living in the present is also something most of us suck at.

(It’s Great to) Suck at Something

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554 days ago

living single will become more of a genuine choice. And when living single is a real choice, then getting married will be, too. Fewer people will marry as a way of fleeing single life or simply doing what they are expected to do, and more will choose it because it’s what they really want.

More people than ever before are single — and that’s a good thing

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561 days ago

My anxiety can be intolerable. But it is also, maybe, a gift—or at least the other side of a coin I ought to think twice about before trading in. As often as anxiety has held me back—prevented me from traveling, or from seizing opportunities or taking certain risks—it has also unquestionably spurred me forward.

Surviving Anxiety

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587 days ago

What can be done? One option is to structure interviews so that all candidates receive the same questions, a procedure that has been shown to make interviews more reliable and modestly more predictive of job success. Alternatively, you can use interviews to test job-related skills, rather than idly chatting or asking personal questions.

Realistically, unstructured interviews aren’t going away anytime soon. Until then, we should be humble about the likelihood that our impressions will provide a reliable guide to a candidate’s future performance.

The Utter Uselessness of Job Interviews

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590 days ago

chronically viewing the glass as half-empty is detrimental both mentally and physically and inhibits one’s ability to bounce back from life’s inevitable stresses.

Turning Negative Thinkers Into Positive Ones

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590 days ago

bilingual people may have highly valued employment attributes: analytical thinking, conceptualizing ability, working memory, and dexterity. Clearly, these skills are assets when it comes to rational planning, managing complexity, and problem solving, which are central for executive function

People who speak multiple languages make the best employees for one big reason

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590 days ago

emotional intelligence is a useful skill to have, as long as you learn to also properly cope with emotions—both others' and your own

Too Much Emotional Intelligence Is a Bad Thing

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590 days ago

When we’re used to good things happening instantly, time taken to craft a thoughtful reply is considered a bad thing.

I know they’ve seen my message – so why haven't they replied?

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598 days ago

think about the opportunity cost of money, or what’s given up (saving for college) to get something immediately appealing (another bottle of rare gin)

The Savings App Designed by a Behavioral Economist

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598 days ago

Define where you want to get to, no matter where that is.

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617 days ago

“Thank you for your email. It’s OK. It was only a half an hour,” they responded.

With my brain, I had completely blown things out of proportion. My palms started to sweat, my face was hot and I felt like I was going to be sick. I jumped immediately to the unrealistic conclusion that I would be fired, homeless and no one would want to hire me again. All  because of a simple, easy to correct mistake.

What It Means to Have a 'Self-Esteem Attack'

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633 days ago

“Kids think through their problems by creating fantasy worlds in ways adults don’t,” Griswold says. “Within these parallel universes, things can be solved, shaped and understood.” Just as children learn best through hands-on activities, they tend to process their feelings through metaphorical reenactments. “Stories,” Griswold noted, “serve a purpose beyond pleasure, a purpose encoded in analogies. Story arcs, like dreams, have an almost biological function.”

Why the British Tell Better Children’s Stories

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637 days ago

Doing things alone eventually dissipates the feeling of self-consciousness in public places and fosters self-awareness instead.

Don't Feel Bad For Me Because I Do Things Alone

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637 days ago

Our hobbies tell a great deal about us and our world: about how we choose to present our lives to others; about the burdensome, expectation-freighted nature of free time; about our slippery relationship with the exigencies of productivity in late-capitalist society

If you want to be a better person, find something to do outside of work

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