In Praise of Being Washed
Most of us seem to stumble into being washed as we get older, but I see no reason why you couldn't experiment with being washed at, say, 22 or 48. Staying in more. Acquiring unfashionable hobbies that nevertheless bring you pleasure. Redirecting some modest portion of your ambition toward pottery or astronomy or some other impractical thing that has no material value to you in terms of career advancement or sex appeal. Cutting yourself some slack.
“Wearing a T-shirt or a button or a pin is the same as sharing a piece on Facebook or Twitter,” said Jenn Lindenauer, Good Media Group’s chief strategy and marketing officer. “It’s an opportunity to promote our shared values.”
The logical people are often too close to the business to disrupt it.
Is this just the jet fuel of high achievement? This infinite striving is the reason they can rack up a spectacular collection of achievements. But does this come at a cost? A frenetic mind, forgoing presence with love ones, or the most pernicious – never being at peace with yourself.
A fantastic and timeless read.
This kind of coaching and training is critical for all levels of management.
A good reminder
But MealTribes is capitalizing on something else, too: the so-called “loneliness epidemic” we’re all supposedly experiencing as urban millennials, though we’re way too cool to admit it.
sometimes, against all logic, the desire is just as much for the opposite. I want to confess things out loud and be ignored.
his cognitive training provides a hint about a major transformation that might soon upend the world of knowledge work.
“We’re trying to identify the ability of leaders to listen to lots of different opinions, to take complex arguments and to make sense of them in a proactive way, instead of simplifying them,” MacRae adds. “And we have found that the more senior you are in a leadership position, the more important that becomes for decision-making.”
Melinda Gates once said that Warren Buffett's wealth didn't make him an optimist; Buffett's optimism made him wealthy.
What is the thing I made most confusing today?
“When there’s built-in expectation,” he said, “your brain always processes that as danger.”
A therapist with some 30 years of experience recently confided to me that of all the themes his clients found difficult to delve into — sex included — there was no tougher nut to crack than envy
Guidelines implicitly admit that everyone is different in confusing ways, that something that’s expected to work for many people might not work for you, and that you should expect to have to try many things before you find the right one.
"If you went to your kitchen, your bedroom, your bathroom, your living room, and you went through all the stuff that was in there, from your toothbrush to your sheets and towels and curtains--you name it--it could all be Warby-ed."
Looking back, I wish I’d been able to reach out for help sooner.
There’s a myth that time is money. In fact, time is more precious than money. It’s a nonrenewable resource. Once you’ve spent it, and you’ve spent it badly, it’s gone forever.
Content creators are indefensible because there are no shared standards that the entire web abides by.
“Careers only look like a straight line in retrospect for the simple reason that, one way or another, we have arrived where we are,”
"It’s a low commitment way for the ghost or ex-partner to stay connected and play a passive role in their exes lives,"
“You can know every single ingredient in a piece of chocolate cake and still sit down and eat the cake and feel that joy. The same with love. There will always be magic to love.”
It's okay to ask. It's okay to share. If all of us adopted this attitude, we'd solve pay equity so much faster.
The Glass Ceiling Index could change if more women fill the workplace pipeline — but many of these obstacles have persisted despite the presence of more than enough qualified women to do the jobs. More likely, what will change sooner are the names of the men in charge — fewer Johns and Roberts and more Liams and Noahs.
That said, I would say one of my key learnings from Yahoo is that timing is everything. There was a time when Yahoo’s offerings could consume hours a day, and trying to regain that moment in time was really hard. We could make the products really good, but regaining that contextual relevance that was afforded to Yahoo in 1999 and the early 2000s was difficult.
It found that attendees were twice as likely to receive a promotion and three times as likely to get a 10% or more pay increase in the year following the conference. But more importantly, the report showed that being connected to like-minded peers significantly impacted attendees’ confidence and work performance.
The erosion of the nuclear family and a sense of disconnectedness in the workplace are some of the reasons why loneliness has bloomed in recent years
I thought that if I did everything right, the city would suddenly unlock itself. Young French people would befriend me; they’d be impressed that I knew so much and spoke so well. They’d see me the way I wanted to be seen, and they’d finally let me in.
I’ve always been haunted by the notion that my own ideology — publish and be damned — got young Shydlovski jailed and beaten. My response to Kunstadter — you put him in this situation, and he knew the risks — sounded good enough, but it was also a kind of statement of inhumanity, the inhumanity of reporting that has become the inhumanity of social media and of the new information wars.
There’s a reason everyone likes to complain about how much dating sucks, and yet we rarely talk about how forging new friendships is just another variation of the same awkward dance
“[I was] unsure if I was buying skin care or a psychological safety blanket, or how much of a difference between the two there really is.”
“Women generally seem better able to adjust their goals in the moment, whereas men will see their race as more black or white, succeed or fail, and if it’s fail, why keep going?”
“This year I tried to take weekends off. I delete Twitter from my phone on weekends. The worst thing you can give me is an audience in my pocket. That’s not a good thing for a theater person.”
America is so behind the rest of the world in terms of being comfortable with women in power.
“We are really keen on making a subscription seem more and more valuable to readers, both to people who are already subscribing, and people who are not subscribers who we want to give more reasons to subscribe,”
You only need an internet connection to change your perspective in a minute
At the end of the day, the point is to be intentional about giving your brain a well-rounded and happy existence
The move towards kindness mirrors the rise of “happiness” pursuits earlier this decade, when a political interest in the value of happiness coincided with academic studies, a self-help movement towards joy, and the relentless counting of one’s blessings. In his book The Happiness Industry, William Davies reported that a growing number of corporations were employing chief happiness officers, while Google had its own “jolly good fellow”.
Our very sense of who we are is intertwined with what we see when we see other people look at us
Andrew reminded me of my preoccupation with “the cult of scale” and one of its gnarly side effects: the idea that “a line trending downward carries ideas of failure, degradation, bleeding, and decay.”