First I Met My Children, Then My Girlfriend. They’re Related.
WILD AS FUCKKK
I find that a useful entry point into any discussion of feminism in Africa is to define it as being fundamentally the struggle by women against patriarchal control and exclusion.
"I have been assaulted. I have also not been assaulted. The difference was never what I was wearing, how much I flirted, or how much I was drinking. The only difference was whether or not the men felt it was okay or not to assault."
Why am I doing this? Being a sports fan means signing up for shady capitalist practices, engaging in ugly tribalism, and very often, cheering for many human beings who stand for the opposite of what you believe in every possible way.
Lagos’s may be the most inventive. In two days in the city, this reporter was offered soft drinks, grapes, plantain chips, eggs, newspapers, windscreen wipers, hats, hot-water bottles, flip-flops, stuffed animals, gospel music, dog leads, three-legged stools, a large mirror and a CD rack.
Nigeria’s education system is failing to arm its children with the skills they need to work in the banking, manufacturing and petroleum industries that drive the economy
Hot take: I don’t think people should hit on strangers. In fact, I don’t think people should really hit on anyone. It’s so often creepy and threatening, even if you mean it to be romantic and complimentary. It’s just the nature of this particular beast.
According to the creator of one of the world’s most successful online courses, almost anyone can learn anything—with the right technique.
“I hit with Serena almost every day for eight years, and Naomi’s weapons are just as big,” Bajin says. “She’s not afraid of center stage, either, and that’s why I believe she has greatness within her.”
Narcissists engage in love bombing, where they are everything you ever wanted, and suddenly they are not.
"How happy are you?" "how certain?".
I scour wedding websites for evidence of doubt, but in these polished places I never find it.
Older men have always used status, gifts and money to buy access to young women.
Given our wholly consensual interaction, did it matter who was stronger? Couldn’t we treat each other as two equal human beings, each of whom had invited and agreed to intimate acts?
One evening, very late, he put a 10,000-yen note on the low table between us. “You need money,” he said. “And I need you.”
A few months after I began injecting testosterone, I discovered that one of the startling new privileges of my male body was that I could silence an entire room just by opening my mouth.
It can be almost unbearable for parents to watch their children pull away. But as tempting as it may be for parents to infiltrate the dark corners of their children’s personal lives, there’s good evidence that snooping does more harm than good
Why do we continue to choose fear? Why do we care so much more if you are killed by a terrorist than by a drunken driver or an apolitically deranged individual with a gun?
The tiny African state of Benin is perhaps best known to the world as the cradle of voodoo.
But this is only part of a rich cultural history that includes a seam of folk tales, many of them handed down from generation to generation by walking storytellers known as "griots."
You do not decide to become an Osun priest, it's the spirit that chooses you.
"What I learned that day is that attention from unfamiliar men is implicitly transactional, and a failure to pay the price can result in some traumatic consequence"
In a life bookended by tragedy, Prince Nico Mbarga poured joy into his music, including the most popular song in African history. But his own story has never been told — until now.
Although marriage is supposed to be till death do us part, is it naive not to prepare for the worst with a secret bank account?
Tens of thousands of people – mostly from the minority Haratine or Afro-Mauritanian groups – still live as bonded labourers, domestic servants or child brides
Shouldering more responsibilities at home is a big reason women are paid less than men and fall behind men in their careers, researchers say.
Amid a sweeping workplace trend pushing collaboration, some people are finding they play a little too well with others, causing stress and overwork.
Although bearing witness to these women’s murders is often gut-wrenching and exhausting, it’s also necessary. Because if we (black women writers) aren’t telling these stories, they often don’t get told at all.
I have a secret,” I said to my new friends at school. I whispered it so that they would see I was reluctant to mention it. The key, I felt, was to underplay. “My father is Steve Jobs.”
When men actually “do more” than provide, they still often receive Nobel-level recognition for doing things that mothers routinely perform — without praise
But I did want to get to know my colleagues, especially because I was trying to learn. So I’d reach out on Slack, the internal messaging system we use. If I saw a particularly well-reported feature, or well-written news story, I’d make a point to tell the author I enjoyed it, and exactly why.
Most feminists don't hate men, as a group (we hate the system that disproportionately favors men at the expense of women), but — congratulations! — we are starting to hate you. Your obsession with misandry has turned misandry into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I am a bit of an extreme kind of person. I do not subscribe to the work-life balance philosophy but to the work-life integration. Sometimes your work is your life, and some of your life is work.