How we end up marrying the wrong people
Anyone we could marry would, of course, be a little wrong for us. It is wise to be appropriately pessimistic here. Perfection is not on the cards. Unhappiness is a constant.
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Get PocketAnyone we could marry would, of course, be a little wrong for us. It is wise to be appropriately pessimistic here. Perfection is not on the cards. Unhappiness is a constant.
Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.
When I met Jonica Hunter, Sarah Taub, and Michael Rios on a typical weekday afternoon in their tidy duplex in Northern Virginia, a very small part of me worried they might try to convert me. All three live there together, but they aren’t roommates—they’re lovers.
PSA: Valentine's Day is next week. Whether or not you celebrate the occasion, this infographic from happiness training app Happify could help you improve your romantic relationship. It sums up several important findings from studies on what makes couples happy.
Not long ago, I was at a dinner party with several couples in their 40s, all married except for my boyfriend and me. The mood was jovial until, over dessert, one guest made an offhand joke about Internet porn.
And at first glance, research seems to back this up, suggesting that married people are on average happier than single people and much happier than divorced people.
This is Part 2. Part 1 is here. Often, the key to succeeding at something big is to break it into its tiniest pieces and focus on how to succeed at just one piece.
Eric Barker writes Barking Up the Wrong Tree. John Gottman can listen to a couple for 5 minutes and determine, with 91% accuracy, whether they’ll divorce.
Nate Bagley says he was sick of hearing love stories that fell into one of two categories — scandal and divorce, and unrealistic fairytale. So he started a Kickstarter and used his life savings to tour the country and interview couples in happy, long-term relationships.
1. Pairbonding is a hallmark of humanity. Data from the Demographic Yearbooks of the United Nations on 97 societies between 1947 and 1992 indicate that approximately 93.1% of women and 91.8% of men marry by age 49. More recent data indicates that some 85% of Americans will eventually marry. 2.
It’s not always where you are in life, but who you have by your side that matters. Far too often, we make our relationships harder than they have to be.
In April this year, the Meredith Corporation announced that it would reduce Ladies’ Home Journal to a shadow of its former self.
About six months ago, I wrote a post titled 6 Toxic Habits that Most People Think Are Normal. It became very successful.
Research shows that practically every dimension of life happiness is influenced by the quality of one’s marriage, while divorce is the second most stressful life event one can ever experience.